Happy Mother’s Day

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I’ll start with a different spin for this article.

Let’s begin with mass lay offs.

The mass lay offs affecting many industries today including tech are measures to address lower revenues from the current inflation. They are a way to service debts from 2021-22 that were taken out to buy back huge numbers of stocks. This is called capital reallocation. That’s modern management.

An emphasis on management — structures, leadership styles, efficiency — may cause a poor understanding of the proper identity of people who work at home: our moms especially, but also our sisters, kasambahays, others. I shall refer to their work as home work, and to them as home workers. We need to remind ourselves of a narrative that brings out home work from the point of view not of management but of love.

An integral, not merely functional, managerial or instrumental, understanding of home work is key to arriving at the identity of this noble profession. This consideration should inspire us to love the home workers in our lives, by praying for them, treating them with respect and appreciation, and recognizing the deep professional value of what they do.

The mission of home workers is a professional dedication to the care of people. Their work inspires and empowers those of us who work outside the home. Home workers show what it means to serve with work, and to become better versions of themselves through their work. That job which makes life pleasant and even functional for the many workers who return home too tired to do anything else. Our home workers are a constant reminder of service, in fact, a reminder of the backbone we often neglect but which contribute a huge percentage of our own success.

It is said that behind every man is a woman. Well, not just one woman. In the Philippines one would have, as well, nannies who specially take care of children, domestic helpers who specialize in various aspects of cleaning and arrangement, home workers who specialize in laundry. And this work force can also include men, like young sons who do chores.

Many women who take children seriously resign from their careers. Their home and their children become their careers. And because of that, the children turn out right, most of the time. They learn the virtues of punctuality, order, temperance or care of details. Values to be found in present-day society such as sustainability, equality, responsibility for the environment, austerity, etc.

The potential for transforming the world through home work is enormous. Especially when they are like our mothers, home workers bring the “feminine” touch to balance the “masculine” values of competitiveness, efficiency, negotiation.

Home work in general terms consists of “making tangible an intangible reality”: the care and centrality of persons in the family. Yes, it is that profound. Such an important mission requires, more than any other professional tasks, personal talents and a specific training which enables them:

About a year ago I found this Youtube Mother’s Day special; it was very moving: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h0r-I5Djpu8. Here’s an approximate transcript.

The producers begin by telling us that they created a fake job and posted it online and in newspapers. Then they held real interviews on Zoom.

Interviewer: (After short, friendly introductions). “OK, now let me tell you a little about the job to get you started with. It’s not just a job. It’s, uhm, probably the most important job. The title we have going right now is Director of Operations, but it’s really kind of so much more than that. Responsibilities and requirements are really quite extensive.

“First category for the requirements would be mobility. This job requires that you must be able to work standing up most, or really, all of the time. Uh, constantly on your feet, constantly bending over, constantly exerting yourself, a high level of stamina.”

Candidate: “Uh, uh, ok. That’s a lot. For how many, like, uh, for how many hours?”

Interviewer: “A hundred and thirty five hours, to unlimited hours. It’s basically 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.”

Candidate: “I’m sure you’ll have a chance from time to time to maybe just sit down here and there, yeah?”

Interviewer: “Uh, you mean like a break?”

Candidate: “Yeah.”

Interviewer: “Uh, no, there are no breaks available.”

Candidate: “Uh, is that, is that even legal?”

Interviewer: “Of course, yeah.”

Candidate: “Uh, ok, it’s like no lunch.”

Interviewer: “You can have lunch, but only when the associate is done eating their lunch.”

Candidate: “Uh, I think that’s a little intense. Nuh, that’s crazy.”

Interviewer: “This position requires excellent negotiation and interpersonal skills. We are looking for someone that might have a degree in uh medicine, in finance, and the culinary arts. You must be able to wear several hats. The associate needs constant attention. Sometimes they have to stay up with an associate throughout the night.

“You should be able to work in uh, a chaotic environment. If, you, uh, if you had a life, we’d ask you to sort of give that life up. No vacations. In fact, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years and holidays, the work load is going to go up. And we demand that, with, with a happy disposition.

Candidate: “Uh, that’s almost cruel! Ha ha, that’s almost uh, a very very sick, twisted job. Is there time to sleep, or…?”

Interviewer: “Oh no time to sleep.”

Candidate: “Yeah, all-encompassing, almost.”

Interviewer: “That’s exactly right.”

Candidate: “Three hundred sixty five days a year?”

Interviewer: “Yes.”

Candidate: “No, no. That’s inhumane! That’s, that’s very insane.”

Interviewer: “The meaningful connections that you make. The feeling that you get from really helping your associate are immeasurable.

“Also, let’s cover the salary. The position is going to pay absolutely nothing.”

Candidate: “Excuse me? No! No one would do that for free!”

Interviewer: “Pro bono, completely for free.”

Candidate: “No!!”

Interviewer: “What if I told you there’s someone who actually, currently, uh, holds this position right now. Billions of people actually.”

Candidate: “Who?”

Interviewer: “Moms.”

The reactions of the candidates were priceless.

“That’s awesome!”

“Awww!”

“Wow!”

“Oh my God! Mom you’re the best!!”

“Yeah, there’s no pain, they’re always there.”

“I’m thinking about my mom.” He looked like he would cry.

Interviewer: “Yeah, what are you thinking about her?”

Candidate: “I mean about all those nights and everything.”

“Thank you so much for everything that you do. I know it doesn’t seem like I appreciate all of it. But I definitely do.”

“So Mom, I want to say ‘thank you’ for everything that you’ve done, I love you very much. You’ve been there, through thick and thin. Mom…she’s awesome…she’s just awesome (tears here).”

(Q.C. 230522)

Freedom and Responsibility in Netflix

With great freedom comes great responsibility. But that leaves open the question of how much freedom is too great. I propose to tackle that question by asking a more limited one: Does giving people maximum freedom actually work?

Let’s look at the example of Netflix. To understand what follows, we have to see Netflix not as a company but as a professional sports team like the Chicago Bulls of the 1980’s.

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So, why Netflix? Even with a dramatic drop in its business since the pandemic, Netflix is still one of the most successful companies in recent times. Its valuation, from an initial IPO at $15/share in 2002, to $500/share in 2020, is exceptional. Credited for this success is a controversial work culture.

What is the controversy? Huge amounts of freedom, including unlimited paid vacation time. Every employee can take as much vacation as he or she wants, any time, paid. Yeah, wow. As long as they do it responsibly, i.e., keeping the interest of Netflix in mind. Other companies think vacations are costly and therefore control them tightly.

But not Netflix.

The employees are all for it. Here is what some of them say:

“We’re giving everyone an incredible amount of freedom to really be the best version of themselves in their professional role.”

Rene Rummel Mergeryan, Director of Business Development.

“The freedom makes me more responsible. Having that much freedom I better check myself.”

Salwa Andraos, Creative producer, Middle East and Africa.

“We feel that it’s fine to fail. Ok, it didn’t turn out as we thought, or didn’t achieve the results we’re looking for. What can we learn from it?”

Lina Brouneus, Director Northern Europe and CEE licensing.

“I think the responsibility comes first. You need to give people responsibility, and then they have all the freedom in the world to execute that responsibility.”

Rob Zimmerman, Senior Counsel Legal.

Responsibility comes first. How is that determined? Netflix does not use a list of company KPI’s. KPI’s discourage risk-taking, which runs counter to the creative culture of the company. So, if it’s not KPI’s, how are responsibilities determined?

By teams, and by team members. Team-based and person-based evaluations work in Netflix because of other ingredients to the mix.

1. Talent density: Netflix teams do not treat each other as family, but as professional sports teams. Thus, Netflix employees are allowed to apply for work at competitors. When there is an offer, the Netflix manager can either let the employee go or match the competing offer.
2. Critical Communication. Netflix has a policy of radical candor. Everyone is expected to give and receive frank feedback, under certain conditions. The feedback must be helpful, must be actionable, and must be appreciated by the person to whom it is given. The targeted individual is free to discard or accept the feedback.
3. No rules for talented people. Talented people don’t need to be micromanaged. Like good coaches, bosses tell their people to take a break, but also tell them when it’s a good time to do so. Indeed, no one takes vacations during peak season. That’s how they all pull each other forward.

But, Netflix has a ruthless HR policy: misuse your freedom and you’re fired. IMMEDIATELY, like Chrissy D who made a racial joke on air. And, if the company decides to get out of a game, they fire employees, like what they did with many animators 8 months ago.

So, how much freedom is too much? If your freedom no longer makes you a better version of yourself. And you’re not a better version of yourself if you pull the team down.

The Netflix culture has its negatives, though.

The unlimited paid vacation policy results in people taking LESS vacations. The peer pressure is real. Travis CI, a German tech company, found that the policy created more stress and inequality, and caused arguments about privilege, since those who had higher positions and therefore more money could take better vacations.

The pressure is so high that the head of Netflix, Reed Hastings, goes on a 6-week leave every year and encourages everyone else to do the same.

Of course, people will make mistakes. The new documentary on Cleopatra is Netflix’s most recent controversy. Call it freedom of expression. But Dr. Mostafa Waziri, secretary-general of the Supreme Council of Antiquities of Egypt, disagrees. He said that Cleopatra’s appearance in the show was a “falsification of Egyptian history and a blatant historical fallacy.” Why? The documentary portrays Cleopatra as black. Most experts think that Cleopatra had her father’s Greek features, although no one knows what her mother looked like.

I broach this example to look at another aspect of freedom and responsibility. Art’s all about imagination and freedom, right? Like Pablo Picasso (1881-1973) said, “Everything you can imagine is real.” Sounds like total freedom, doesn’t it? So where’s the responsibility?

On January 7, 2015, the offices of Charlie Hebdo, a satirical French newspaper, were attacked by two Algerian French brothers armed with assault rifles; 12 were murdered. Related hostage taking and shooting in the next 2 days led to 5 more deaths, plus the 2 terrorists. And for months after that, a rise in Islamophobe violence and terrorist attacks that led to 130 more deaths within the year.

What triggered all this violence? Satirical cartoons featuring the prophet Mohammed. These editorial cartoons started appearing in 2006. In 2009, the newspaper even released a special edition called “Charia Hebdo” and named the Prophet Muhammad as editor-in-chief. That’s not even a lot. Anti-islamist satires at that time represented a mere 1.3% of all the satirical content the guys in Charlie Hebdo have been producing since 2006.

The Charlie Hebdo massacre reminds us of British Salman Rushdie (1947- ), who depicted the Prophet as a lustful maniac in his 4th novel The Satanic Verses. That book resulted in numerous deaths and attempted murders, including against Rushdie himself.

Prof. Pratap Rughani, Associate Dean of Research, London College of Communication, said in an interview: “I would argue that there’s no abstract place where artistic freedom is just expressed; it is always in relation to the journey of another.” This sentiment is echoed by the late writer-director Freddie Santos (1956-2020)who once said, “The main object of art is not self expression. It’s about sending a message.”

Messages, as we just saw, have consequences. G.K. Chesterton (1874-1936) once said, “Art, like morality, consists of drawing the line somewhere.”

That line is responsibility.

To summarize: The unlimited vacation policy of Netflix and the free expression of artists are either self-regulating activities, or will be regulated by, for example, control violent or not. Freedom and responsibility, as much as needed, up to the point where they no longer make us better versions of ourselves. But how Netflix achieves that will not necessarily work for other companies. Others companies are trying: Glasdor, Kronos, and Virgin Group for example. For sure their version will be unique.

The story of how Netflix made that culture work extremely well is detailed in the book No Rules Rules by Reed Hastings, Netflix founder, and Erin Meyer of the INSEAD business school.

(Q.C. 230520)

Stone Soup

Once upon a time, there lived a jovial monk named Brother William. Despite his humble lifestyle, he was known far and wide for his wonderful ability to make any dish taste heavenly. He claimed his secret was not any special ingredient, but working solely for the glory of God.

One day, a wealthy, arrogant gourmet named Gaston arrived in town. He boasted about his sophisticated palate and how he had savored every delicacy the world had to offer. Hearing about Brother William’s culinary prowess, Gaston challenged him to a cook-off, confident that his expansive knowledge of worldly flavors would easily outshine the monk’s humble dishes.

“Brother William,” Gaston smirked, “Let’s see if your God-given talent can create a dish that my superior taste buds will find delightful.”

Brother William accepted the challenge. But, instead of rushing off to the market for ingredients, he picked up a plain stone from the garden and placed it in a pot of boiling water. The townsfolk, as well as Gaston, watched in disbelief.

“Is this some divine recipe?” Gaston sneered. “Stone Soup?”

Brother William simply smiled and prayed quietly over the pot. Then he ladled out the soup. Gaston was stunned.

“This is disgusting!” he spluttered. “Is this a joke?”

Brother William replied, “My dear Gaston, what did you expect? A stone’s a stone. Wealth, power, stones. You in your pride think they’re more than that, in the eyes of God they’re nothing. But if we worked only for the glory of God, even a stone becomes gold. But don’t worry, take this,” offering Gaston a small cup.

Of the most delicious soup Gaston ever tasted. “OMG!!!”, exclaimed Gaston, dropping his pen.

“Insane, right? That’s the real Stone Soup. The other one was just water. I switched the bowls. See I’m also a magician. Been doing it since I was 8.”

Gaston and Brother Willy became friends that day. Five years later Gaston joined the order.

(Q.C. 230514)

I’m reposting here an article by Philip Kosloski that appeared in Aleteia in 20 November 2017 entitled 5 Helpful Tips from a 6th century Monk on Preparing a Meal (https://aleteia.org/2017/11/20/5-helpful-tips-from-a-6th-century-monk-on-preparing-a-meal/)

In the 6th century, St. Benedict of Norcia was a revolutionary abbot. He established countless monasteries under a common rule that brought much needed order to the monastic life. The rule covered all aspects of life, including meals.

In his Rule, Benedict made specific regulations for meals in community that helped nourish both the soul and body. Here are five of those practical rules that can be applied in various circumstances.

1. Cook a few different types of food, giving options for everyone to eat

We think it sufficient for the daily meal, whether at the sixth or the ninth hour, that there be at all the tables two dishes of cooked food because of the weaknesses of different persons; so that he who perhaps cannot eat of the one may make his meal of the other. Therefore, let two cooked dishes suffice for the brethren; and if there is any fruit or fresh vegetables, let a third dish be added. 

2. Everyone should take turns in the kitchen

All the brethren, except those who are hindered by sickness or by some occupation of great moment, shall serve each other by turns, so that no one be excused from duty in the kitchen, for thereby a very great reward is obtained.

3. Moderation is to be observed in the food (and drink) prepared

[E]xcess [is to] be avoided above all things, that no monk be ever guilty of [consuming too much]; for nothing is more unworthy of any Christian than gluttony. Although we read that wine is by no means a drink for monks, yet, since in our days the monks cannot be convinced of this, let us at least agree to this, that we do not drink to satiety, but sparingly.

4. Avoid eating alone as much as possible

Brethren who go out on any business and expect to return to the monastery on the same day should not presume to take any food while outside the monastery.

5. Treat dinner guests as Christ himself, even breaking a personal fast to accommodate a guest

Let all guests arriving at the monastery be received as Christ Himself, for He will one day say, “I was a stranger and you took Me in.” And let due honor be paid to all, especially, however, to those who are of the household of the faith — and to strangers.The superior may break the fast on account of a guest.

On Patriotism

In his message during the 81st Araw ng Kagitingan (Day of Valor) last 9 April 2023, Philippine President Ferdinand Marcos Jr. said that the people still have within them the character of heroism that their forebears have displayed in defending the country.

“We see heroism in our veterans—some of whom are here with us today. They have passed on to us this shining legacy, this treasure, for us to burnish. … The answer lies in every Filipino who toils and sacrifices to feed their families, help their communities, and serve their country,” he said.

Marcos described what patriotism looks like: feed families, help communities, serve country, sacrifice.

Filipinos have always been fascinated with the idea of heroism, nationalism, and patriotism. We still yearn for the “unfinished revolution” and believe that we can only solve our nation’s problems if we follow the examples of Jose Rizal (1861-1896), Andres Bonifacio (1863-1897), or any other hero from the past.

But do Rizal, Bonifacio and other heroes help us feed families, help communities, and serve country? It’s a valid question.

Let’s see how it plays out. A House Bill (HB) 10542, called the “Bonifacio Law”, was filed in November 2021. It is similar to the 1956 Rizal Law, but on a local level. HB 10542 will mandate all higher educational institutions in the city of Manila, public and private, to include a course about Bonifacio’s “life, works, and ideals.” If HB 10542 is passed it can be a pretext for a law that will authorize a “Bonifacio course” in the totality of the Philippine curricula.

That would be a little concerning. The Rizal Law had unintended consequences. While the goal was to instill patriotism, it only bolstered what we call La Leyenda Negra, a theorised historiographical tendency which consists of anti-Spanish and anti-Catholic propaganda. Rizal’s novels Noli Me Tangere (1887) and El Filibusterismo (1891), highlight aspects of Philippine society that are no longer relevant. Historian Gloria Cano has pointed out how the teaching of Rizal includes American distortions about the Spanish period.

Lies don’t feed families, help communities, and serve country. How many people know Rizal was a physician, educator, and agriculturist? That Bonifacio had a white collar job managing inventory at a German-owned warehouse, and was a part-time theater actor? They were as much patriots at their day jobs, perhaps more because those were everyday things. Kids think you have to carry a revolver or die by one to be a hero.

If our goal were to do serve effectively, it may be more important to pass laws that will improve the teaching of Philippine History at the primary and secondary level, especially in this age of rampant disinformation, and give us examples of patriotism that actually resonate.

It is easier to imagine such examples whenever we have a fight with an enemy, such as 1896, 1898, 1941. It is harder when we go about through traffic to work and then return exhausted at the end of the day. These give us a sense that nothing works. Unfortunately, becoming a US or Chinese state will not bring snow here.

Patriots don’t approve of the bad parts of their home any more than a parent is pleased with the weaknesses of a child. But nations became great because they were loved, not through some other cause and then attracting admirers. Patriots don’t have to think everything is right about their country.

Still, patriotism has always been a bit unpopular because it usually sells heaven on earth. It’s equated with idolizing our country, blindly trusting our leaders, or using it to justify oppression. It’s a problem concept, but not so problematic from a Catholic point of view.

“Give to Caesar what belongs to Caesar and to God what belongs to God”. Jesus didn’t see the Roman government as a threat to his reign and understood the distinction between the Church and the State. If the defects of the Roman state were a threat to Christ’s reign, he would have said so.

God, however, might have said something about England, by raising an army against it and placing St. Joan of Arc to lead it. Three hundred years later, England would its Catholics. G.K. Chesterton (1874-1936) struggled with balancing his love for England and his Catholic faith. But he came to see that patriotism is a natural joy for a healthy person. It’s about finding joy in the everyday blessings of our country, whatever country.

Against such noble sentiments is the current trend of anti-patriotism and wokism that takes pleasure in destruction. That unhealthy attitude is not new. Leo Tolstoy‘s (1828-1910) believed that patriotism must be eradicated because it’s a remnant of barbaric times. John Lennon (1940-1980) wrote: “Imagine there’s no countries, It isn’t hard to do, Nothing to kill or die for. And no religion, too.”

But, John, only boredom comes from having no heaven, country, or religion. These are interests, interests move you forward. Peace comes from dealing with others who have their own interests, sometimes by fighting. Let’s illustrate that with the elephant in the room: China. It is said that our leaders are surrendering to China. Unpatriotic!

It’s not that simple. We, the Chinese, and the US are working for our self-interests, but no one is trying to destroy the others. This allows all players to win some and lose some for an indefinite period. The media portray the West Philippine Sea incursions as an invasion we’re losing, but they’re not talking about how the US bases are preventing war in Taiwan, and how THAT is keeping everyone’s economy afloat and growing. Win some, lose some.

That wasn’t the case between the Soviets and the US in 1962. The Cuban missile crisis nearly caused World War 3 because both powers initially thought there could only be one winner. But at some point, Bobby Kennedy (1925-1968) suggested to the Soviet ambassador Anatoly Dobrynin (1919-2010) that the Americans were willing to pull out their own missiles in Turkey for “repair”. Now “repair” is very far from “win”. The Soviets understood. There was no longer an existential threat. The crisis was defused. Couching the West Philippine Sea as a joint exploration venture is such a move.

The government, however, is about to come face to face with an existential surrender from elsewhere. I’m talking about abortion and divorce. Patriotism means feeding families, helping communities, serving the country; but how can that happen when there are NO families to feed or communities to serve?

I think we will be playing that existential game one day. What do we do? What we can do. Exercise our citizenship. Vote. Catholics who have the energy, intelligence, and integrity for it should run for public office, even at the barangay level, join professional lobby groups and NGO’s.

Every business, clinic, school, and lab set-up in this country serves it. The so-called social enterprises, explicitly say it. Rags to Riches is a Philippine company that sells bags and the like made by local artisans. The owner, Reese Fernandez-Ruiz, is a cousin. She put up the business 13 years ago after graduating from the Ateneo de Manila University. Her first employees were from Payatas. Similar companies include Bakas Agritech, which uses smartphones to document farmer, farm and crop details on the blockchain; Indie Nomad Manila, an alternative adventure company promoting sustainable tourism; and this new kid on the block Queenie Anne Gumiran from the Ateneo, a travel blogger who makes wealth for coastal communities by marketing jewelry made out of sea glass, bubog smoothed by the waves.

So, in the end, a patriot is a man for others. Like Rizal: physician, educator, agriculturist. Bonifacio: warehouse manager, theater actor. It’s not just the Noli and the Fili. We will use the revolver if we had to.

The patriot sees that the solutions to this country’s problems lie in the everyday blessings: the energy and talent in Filipino families and communities. The patriot will sacrifice in ordinary things and in extraordinary things. In both cases, “Blessed are the peacemakers.”

It’s indeed disheartening to see patriotism declining. We need to reclaim patriotism as a virtue and appreciate our common home. As Pope Leo XIII (1810-1903) said, “we can and should love ourselves and our fellow humans, care for our country, but also have a deep love and respect for the Church and God.”

Now some trivia. Which countries are the most patriotic? A hard question for a survey to answer because the words “love” and “pride” differ depending on the state of the economy, the people they are compared with, ethnic mixes, are we talking about the Olympics, etc. That said, in one survey, the Philippines ranks very high, just below Trinidad and Tobago, Japan and Germany very low. The latter is more surprising, may have to do with guilt from World War 2. People with a guilt complex can get very touchy. I once saw this on a bus in Paris. A German boarded the bus. Some French muttered “Nazi” under his breath. Unfortunately, the German heard. He berated the French guy — “What did you say? Did you call us Nazi?” — then smacked him hard with his newspaper, “Do not fuck with us,” then calmly took an empty seat near the back. Nothing more was said.

(Q.C. 230513)

On Work Spouses

Yesterday evening at dinner my friend asked me “Would you ever hire an escort?”

What is an escort?

An escort is a professional companion. People hire them for a variety of reasons, such as companionship, attending social events, and sometimes for sexual services. Their key talents, however, are empathy and conversation. They are often well-educated and articulate, intelligent, and come from good social classes. Because clients are moneyed, such as professional men who have just gotten divorced or separated, they can charge quite a sum.

I answered my friend, “No, because I already have the total package sitting in front of me.”

She reminded me of a conversation scene between the characters of Stanley Tucci as Nigel, and Anne Hathaway as Andy, in The Devil Wears Prada.

Anne Hathaway (Andy) and Stanley Tucci (Nigel) in The Devil Wears Prada (2006). Image: http://thefilmexperience.net/blog/2020/12/14/gay-best-friend-nigel-in-the-devil-wears-prada.html

Nigel: I don’t know what you expect me to do. There’s nothing in this whole closet that’ll fit a size six. I can guarantee you. These are all sample sizes – two and four. All right. We’re doing this for you. And…

Andy Sachs: A poncho?

Nigel: You’ll take what I give you and you’ll like it. We’re doing this Dolce for you. And shoes. Jimmy Choos. Manolo Blahnik. Nancy Gonzalez. Love that. Okay, Narciso Rodriguez. This we love. Uh, it might fit. It might.

Andy Sachs: What?

Nigel: Okay. Now, Chanel. You’re in desperate need of Chanel. Darling, shall we? We have to get to the beauty department, and God knows how long that’s going to take.

That sincerity and trust between two co-workers who can count on each other for professional and personal advice, empathy, alcohol and antihistamines as needed. Strangers who see them might think they’re married, except there’s no romance. It’s not quite like the friendship between guys and guys, or girls and girls, but something just as deep. Nigel and Andy are what we call work spouses.

What are work spouses?

The term is often used to describe a close relationship between two colleagues of the opposite sex. It’s like a professional version of a best friend, but within the context of the workplace. You and your work spouse might share jokes, lunch breaks, and vent to each other about work-related issues. You might also support each other through tough times at work or in your personal lives. People with work spouses are often happier at work.

In so far as we’re “writers”, me and my friend are probably work spouses.

How do you know you have a work spouse?

You communicate frequently throughout the day, even about non-work-related topics.
You look out for each other and help each other succeed at work.
You feel comfortable venting to them about work-related frustrations.
You know a lot about each other’s personal lives.
You seek each other’s opinions on work-related decisions.
You share inside jokes and can make each other laugh.
You feel a sense of trust and loyalty towards each other.

OK, we don’t exactly fit because we don’t meet that often. Who am I kidding. We may write in different genres and styles, but the take-home tips we get from each other are the indirect result of all those other things we talk about: our lives and our hang-ups especially among our real colleagues and families.

Having a work spouse can be great for camaraderie and support at work. It’s important, though, to maintain boundaries and respect each other’s personal lives. Since me and my friend first met about 20 years ago our lives have taken very different paths. Those paths still intersect at some points: we have a ton of shared experiences, similar cultural inclinations, equivalent book preferences, the same attraction for intellectual bullshit, and common friends. Her fiancé is a good friend.

One thing is clear: our meetings, usually over food, are times well spent.

Is having a work spouse a common practice?

A survey in the US in 2017 showed that 71% of office workers had a work spouse, but this number has been going down. It was 29% in 2021 and 13% in 2022 (https://www.wsj.com/articles/whats-missing-from-office-life-it-may-be-your-work-spouse-c4ababc6). One hypothesis is that the #MeToo movement has spooked men from even having social relations with women outside of strictly professional dealings, which is disturbing to some women because it makes them feel blocked out.

The #MeToo movement is particularly bad for women executives. Because of the fear of lawsuits and complaints, which have gotten some innocent men fired on mere allegations, fewer and fewer male executives are willing to take on female mentees, while women themselves are not taking full advantage of mentoring from other women (https://blog.skyelearning.com/why-do-women-have-fewer-mentors). This lack is leading to fewer and fewer women getting into executive positions.

I’m sensitive to the danger of the law, having once gotten a friend out of jail on a sexual harassment complaint: he tried to start a conversation with a seatmate on the bus. My experience with women is that they’re great colleagues, but almost none will ever become a work spouse.

The relationship is not necessary. But with enough years building trust, having a work spouse and BFF in the same person is part of, in the words of Chris Gardner, “Something that gets you so excited you can’t wait to get out of bed in the morning”.

(Q.C. 230512)

Coup in Cognitiville-Sur-Mer

Once upon a time in the tiny city of Cognitiville-sur-Mer, there was an unsolvable problem that baffled the townsfolk. No one knew how to get rid of the mysterious pile of socks that appeared in the town square one morning.

It was a truly confounding dilemma, and the townspeople were starting to worry that their beloved square would eventually be buried under a mountain of mismatched socks. They didn’t want sell them off to the local Chinese sweatshop, because the people wanted nothing to do with counterfeits and overruns.

The mayor, Seigneur Flâneur de Lagon Tortueux, desperate for a solution, and not willing to be exposed for having received bribes to allow these socks access to the public square, decided to assemble a crack team of Cognitiville’s most diverse thinkers and problem solvers. He called upon Mlle. Dinglebaie de Doodleshire, a free-spirited artist who could paint her way out of any problem; Monsieur Brouhaha le Déconcerté, a logical if absent-minded mathematician who used the power of numbers to solve any problem; Madame Babillard de Quizzicalbourg, a psychic medium and collector of gossip who could communicate with the spirit world; and Frère Farfelu le Frivole, an obese and quirky inventor who could create wild contraptions for any situation.

And there was Baron Blunderbuste de Bourdonbridge, “The Baron”, a retired general. He hardly spoke.

The team, which came to be known as the A-Team de Chaussettes, gathered at the town hall to discuss their unique approach to the sock-pocalypse.

“Clearly, the socks are multiplying,” M. le Déconcerté declared, scribbling equations on the wall beside the whiteboard. “We just need to find the inverse function to reduce the pile.”

Mlle. Dinglebaie scoffed, “”Look, man, it’s all just talk for the heavy stuff we’re all luggin’ around, you get me? We gotta slap some color on a wall, make it real pretty, and those socks’ll just up and vanish, no hassle.””

Madame Babillard chimed in, “Listen, hic, listen… those socks, right? They’re, hic, they’re not just socks, no sirree. They’re like… whispers, yeah, whispers from someplace else. We gotta, hic, we gotta get our heads in the game, man, like… cosmic game. Séance, that’s what we need! Talk to us, socky specters! We’re, hic, we’re all ears! Ready to hear your sock stories, your… your wishes! Let the, hic, let the universe spill the beans! Beho–“

Frère Farfelu le Frivole was in the corner, rummaging through a pile of scrap metal and wires and had snapped a spring that flew into Madame Babillard’s face, knocking her out. “Ah-ha! An epiphany of gargantuan proportions! Envision, if you will, an automaton of epic scale, a sock-devouring contraption of my own design! A veritable titan, it shall descend upon the accumulation of footwear, masticating with robotic precision. And the pièce de résistance? Oh, but it will transmute these humble socks into a veritable cornucopia of pristine, sustainable energy! The future is here and it’s sock-powered, my dear colleagues!”

Mayor de Lagon Tortueux, overjoyed that the city will soon get rid of the thorn in his political career, suggested they each try their approach and see what worked best.

First, M. le Déconcerté spent hours calculating the inverse function on the whiteboard with a permanent marker, but the pile of socks remained unchanged and the whiteboard wasted.

Mlle. Dinglebaie painted a breathtaking mural on the side of the town hall and for three days between 1 and 2 pm stood beside it to answer questions. The socks continued to multiply.

Madame Babillard held an elaborate séance followed by Q&A, but the spirits couldn’t reach a consensus, and everyone left leaving two spirits on the panel to continue their argument.

Finally, Frère Farfelu le Frivole unveiled his giant sock-eating robot, which promptly went haywire and started consuming everything in sight—except for the socks.

Feeling defeated, the A-Team de Chaussettes regrouped and decided to tackle the problem together. They combined their skills.

Mlle. Dinglebaie painted a beautiful Instructions on How to Operate The Robot on the robot, making it an artistic AND functional masterpiece that even a child can operate.

M. le Déconcerté calculated the perfect speed and trajectory for the robot to approach the sock pile, writing the proof on Dinglebaie’s mural.

Madame Babillard attempted to negotiate a Theory of Change with any possible sock spirits that might be controlling the pile and got commitments on several key deliverables.

And Frère Farfelu le Frivole, with his endless creativity, designed a giant sock launcher that could fling the socks right across the Mediterranean from Cognitiville-sur-Mer.

But then Baron Blunderbuste de Bourdonbridge puffed on his cigar, spoke in a gruff manner: “Now hold it right there, what in the blazes is this infernal ROBOT supposed to be good for?”

To their chagrin, the A-Team realized they needed to coordinate their genius. “We need to coordinate our genius!”, they all said as one, an instance we all experience when we feel extremely stupid.

“Listen up, you lot!,” thundered The Baron, standing up. “No backing down, no waving the white flag; that’s the code. By this very code, we’ll hold our ground, fight… and if need be, perish. A new dawn is upon us. An age of liberty, and let it be known far and wide, that 300 of our finest Spartans breathed their last to safeguard it!”

Spartans??” asked the terrorized Mayor, looking around desperate for answers.

At that point, 300 Spartan Socks from Australia arrived at the scene; they had been flown in by military transport that evening. The Baron’s son got into the command seat and, following the Instructions, commandeered the Robot. The Robot picked up the giant sock launcher, loaded it with the Spartan Socks, approached the enemy from a 36 degree angle at the speed of a battle tank, and fired away. Most of the unwanted socks exploded and vaporized in a light-and-sounds show that lasted 4 hours; socks that escaped the initial massacre were rounded up and destroyed over the next six days. Mayor Flâneur de Lagon Tortueux was arrested for corruption.

Quizzicalbourg organized a massive party, the new city flag designed by Dinglebaie de Doodleshire waving in the air by the hundreds, and the spirits Cognac, Armagnac, Chartreuse and Chambord going around in the thousands.

Thus, the A-Team de Chaussettes learned that no problem was unsolvable when diverse thinkers came together to find a solution. The A-Team became local heroes, and the story of their triumph was retold every month, until Dictator-for-Life Blunderbuste de Bourdonbridge was deposed by a coup d’état 16 years later.

Peter O’Toole in Power Play (1978), my inspiration for The Baron. Image: https://www.radiotimes.com/movie-guide/b-k1f1vt/power-play/

(Q.C. 230511)

How to Read a Book

How to Read a Book by Mortimer J. Adler (1902-2001) and Charles Van Doren (1926-2019) is a classic guide that provides insights and strategies for improving one’s reading skills and comprehension. The book presents a systematic approach to reading, focusing on understanding and engaging with a wide variety of written works, from fiction to complex non-fiction.

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The authors categorize reading into four levels:

  1. Elementary reading: Basic reading skills learned during primary education, such as recognizing words and understanding their meanings.
  2. Inspectional reading: Skimming or superficial reading to get a quick understanding of the book’s structure, main ideas, and purpose.
  3. Analytical reading: A more in-depth and focused approach to reading, with the goal of fully understanding and engaging with the material.
  4. Syntopical reading: Reading multiple books on the same topic and comparing their ideas, arguments, and perspectives to gain a comprehensive understanding of the subject.

Adler and Van Doren outline a series of steps for each level, particularly focusing on analytical reading. Some key steps for analytical reading include:

  1. Classifying the book: Determine the type of book you’re reading (fiction, history, science, philosophy, etc.) to set the right approach and expectations.
  2. Understanding the book’s structure: Examine the table of contents, headings, and subheadings to understand how the book is organized and to identify the main topics covered.
  3. Pre-reading the book: Skim through the book, read the introduction, and glance at key sections to gain a general understanding of the material.
  4. Identifying the author’s main point: Determine the central argument, thesis, or theme of the book.
  5. Understanding the author’s reasoning: Analyze the arguments and evidence the author presents to support their main point, and evaluate the strength and validity of their reasoning.
  6. Critiquing the book: Assess the book’s strengths and weaknesses, consider alternative viewpoints, and form your own opinions about the material.
  7. Engaging in active reading: Take notes, ask questions, and engage in discussions with others to deepen your understanding and retention of the material.

Parallels with Guitton’s Arts of Thinking that I discuss in my previous blog — election, distinction, and contradiction — are evident.

Suggestions for applying the principles in How to Read a Book include:

Practice different reading levels: Develop your skills at each level of reading by intentionally applying the appropriate techniques to different types of books or materials.

Set reading goals: Establish clear objectives for your reading, such as understanding specific concepts, learning new skills, or exploring a new topic.

Take notes and summarize: As you read, take notes, and periodically summarize what you’ve learned to help reinforce your understanding and retention of the material.

Discuss with others: Engage in conversations or discussions about the books you’re reading to gain new insights, clarify your understanding, and share your perspectives.

Be patient and persistent: Developing strong reading skills takes time and practice. Be patient with yourself and commit to reading regularly to improve your comprehension and enjoyment of the material.

Now, let’s delve into reading that we engage in specifically for enjoyment: fiction. I will tackle that subject in two parts. First, I will outline the benefits of reading fiction; and second, I will outline a method for discussing fiction with others.

Beyond simple enjoyment or entertainment, reading fiction has numerous benefits. It can be a practical tool for personal growth, understanding, and skills development in several ways:

  1. Empathy and Understanding: Fiction allows readers to experience different perspectives and walk in the shoes of characters who are different from them. This can foster empathy and understanding toward others’ situations, feelings, and actions.
  2. Cultural Awareness: Reading novels from different countries, cultures, or time periods can expose readers to different ways of life, beliefs, and customs, enhancing their cultural awareness and understanding.
  3. Critical Thinking and Problem Solving: Fiction often presents complex plots, characters, and moral dilemmas. Readers must interpret, analyze, and make judgments about these elements, which can improve their critical thinking and problem-solving skills.
  4. Language and Communication Skills: Regularly reading fiction can improve vocabulary, grammar, writing, and overall language skills. It can also enhance storytelling abilities and verbal communication, as readers often discuss books with others.
  5. Emotional Intelligence: Fiction often delves deeply into characters’ inner lives, emotions, and personal growth. This can help readers better understand and manage their own emotions, enhancing emotional intelligence.
  6. Creativity and Imagination: The imaginative worlds and situations in fiction can stimulate readers’ creativity, encouraging them to imagine possibilities beyond their own experiences.
  7. Relaxation and Stress Management: Reading can be a relaxing activity that provides an escape from everyday stresses. It can also improve sleep if done before bed as part of a nighttime routine.
  8. Life Lessons and Morals: Fiction often explores themes related to morality, ethics, and human behavior. Readers can gain insights and learn valuable lessons from these explorations.

Fiction is also an extraordinarily effective communication tool. Humans have a tendency to relate to narratives. Information structured within a story is more engaging, memorable, and easier to comprehend than raw data or disconnected facts. Stories create a vivid picture and immerse the audience in a context that they can relate to personally, stirring emotions and empathy. They can also help to illustrate complex ideas or abstract concepts in a more accessible way. Stories tap into our shared cultural and social constructs, making it a universally understood language that can bridge differences and foster shared understanding.

Thus, storytelling can inspire, motivate, and persuade very effectively, making it an invaluable tool in effective communication. While reading fiction might not provide “practical” skills in the way that learning to cook or change a tire might, the soft skills and insights it provides can enrich personal and professional lives in meaningful ways.

It will therefore serve the reader to know a little about how to make shared learning efficient, i.e., how to maximize the benefit of stories by discussing them in a small group such as a book club.

One model that is useful for this purpose is called the Shared Inquiry Discussion Model. It’s a democratic and interactive approach to exploring texts. The objective of the exercise is not to “review”, but to think together, wherever that takes them, whether they learn any life hacks or not. Discussion aims and encourages participants to engage deeply with the material and with each other’s interpretations.

Here’s how it works:

  1. Preparation: Everyone in the group reads the book before the discussion. It’s also helpful if members take notes on thoughts, reactions, or questions they have while reading, especially for points they’d like to discuss with the group. I recommend that members dedicate a special journal or diary that they use only for book clubs.
  2. Question Selection: The discussion begins with an open-ended question about the book. This could be something like, “What is the main theme of the book?” or “Why do you think the character made that decision?” It’s important that the question is not fact-based (i.e., can be answered directly from the text) but rather interpretative, promoting thought and discussion. The moderator would have prepared a short list. The list serves as a guide, and it is not assumed that all questions will be tackled.
  3. Initial Responses: Each member takes turns giving their initial response to the question. These should be brief and without interruption.
  4. Discussion: After everyone has given their initial responses, the floor is open for discussion. Members can respond to each other’s interpretations, ask follow-up questions, provide textual evidence for their views, etc. The goal is not to come to a consensus but to explore the question in depth and from various perspectives.
  5. Follow-Up Questions: Once the discussion on the first question has naturally concluded, any member can pose a new question for the group to discuss, and the process repeats. It’s encouraged for these questions to arise organically from the discussion.
  6. Wrap Up: After all questions have been discussed, the group wraps up by reflecting on the conversation and perhaps discussing how their understanding of the book has evolved through the discussion.
  7. Feedback: After the discussion, it can be beneficial to have a feedback session where members can express their feelings about the discussion process, what they liked, what they didn’t like, and any suggestions for future discussions.

The facilitator’s role is crucial in maintaining a productive and pleasant atmosphere during the discussion. He or she should ensure everyone gets a chance to speak, guide the discussion back on track if it strays too far from the topic, and ensure that the conversation remains civil and respectful at all times.

These suggestions can enhance your reading skills, deepen your understanding of a wide range of topics, and cultivate a lifelong love of learning.

(Q.C. 230511)

The New Art of Thinking

Jean Guitton (1901-1999) was a noted French Catholic philosopher and theologian. His work often focused on the intersection of faith and reason, and he was known for his efforts to articulate Christian beliefs in a philosophical framework that could engage with modern thought.

The author wrote a book Nouvel Art de Penser (Aubier 1946), one of my favorites, a copy of which I always have close by. Below is a summary that I translated from the French original written by R. Feys (Revue Philosophique de Louvain, Année 1947, 6-7 pp. 266-267):

“A book on the art of thinking gives advice on the good use of thought. During the period of the Port Royal Logic [a classic manual on logic written by Arnauld and Nicole in 1662], these counsels only concerned skillful use of the forms of reasoning. Jean Guitton, writing as a moral philosopher, places the art of thinking within the art of living. The author wishes to inspire dispositions in the reader that will give birth to thought and to orient the reader along the right moral path.

“To put oneself into a habit of thought, one must rid oneself of a spirit of incuriosity and bored indifference. This is why the first chapter focuses on the idea of giving birth or giving birth again to wonder. From here, the mind has to arrive at invention or creation, and then at judgment. Invention involves the work of the imagination, or simply the power of combining ideas. Judgment involves concluding and systematizing. Between both, there is space for three operations: election, distinction, and contradiction.

  1. Election, to make a choice, in one’s readings for instance. This choice is the base for the integrity or consistency of a thought; it does not have to lead to or imply a narrowness of spirit. [Note: Election also includes the art of finding the essence, of a book, a work of art, etc. Its abuse is narrowness of spirit or thought, a total lack of interest in any other view than how one sees something.]
  2. Distinction. Words like reason, nature, love, habit, are susceptible to ambiguity and equivocation. He who is able to distinguish the nuances of their meaning has by this act shown that he could make a philosophy for himself. [Note: Distinction also includes the art of classification and grouping, from which comes the art of finding nuances. One abuse is hair-splitting.]
  3. Contradiction. Guitton writes of this as an active thought, a constant dialogue with an oppositor, either a stranger or oneself. We speak here about paradox, irony, humor, and dialectic or debate which are manifestations of an intimate struggle within oneself. [Note: Contradiction is also the art of conversation, which is informal debate enjoyed in the company of friends. The spirit behind conversation is that it makes one’s beliefs stronger after having been put on the table for comment and improvement. In a good debate one always changes one’s mind, in the sense that one’s belief has changed to become better. Sometimes the change can be radical. The abuse is to be skeptical about everything, to either say there is no truth, or that truth is only what I make it.]

“Guitton has wanted, in accord with good classical tradition, to give valuable advice in the form of a dialogue, to give those counsels a personal and intimate character. That’s why he addresses himself to a person, Irene, whose name evokes Peace. She has the calm virtues of a very good student. Her mentor has to teach her how to wonder, how to be surprised, at least actively. He has to warn her about a certain abuse of the dialectic, that is, the relativism of pure literary thought where arbitrary meaning is assigned to any word. Irene does not have to feel she has missed her last chance to learn something profound, nor does she have to feel a need for complicated doubts, or have a taste for excessive formalism, complexity, or ritualism in any area of life. Irene is neither a scholar nor a scientist. She is not in need of practical tips or rules for living, such as the 10 Commandments. She will probably teach, but she is not in the business of constructing her totally unique personal ideas in isolation from others.

“Guitton’s art of thinking is not very different from the art of reading good books or the art of enjoying good things. It is not an art for creating, but an art for understanding.

“Thought, says Guitton in his conclusion, may be represented by The Thinker by Michelangelo, or that by Rodin, or by the Mona Lisa. He loves to represent thought as another sculpture by Rodin, a “calm and pure face emerging from a solid block of matter.”

“Be good, sweet maid, and let who will be clever.” One imagines the teacher writing these poetic words to his student Irene, peacefully in thought, under the shadows of a grand provincial garden. He has not wanted to communicate to us a fierce flame of thought, but to lovingly teach us how to manage our spirit.”

Although Guitton says that Irene is not after practical tips, the Nouvel Art de Penser has been very practical for me. Election, for instance, is trained prejudice that makes us choose good, true, and beautiful things over their opposites. In choosing to love some things, we choose to reject others. Always there is this idea of contrast that makes me comfortable with the idea that any decision I make for will also be a decision against. Every decision leaves room for feeling regret, for having chosen against some things. These feelings do not make the decision wrong, and for this reason, a morally upright person is able to tolerate not only persecution on the part of others but guilt and shame on his part as well.

Distinction is a trained ability to discover nuances. This art also recognizes that the same ideas will mean different things to different people, and that what to one may be clear may be gibberish to another. Distinction is very practical in moral, ethical and legal cases where circumstances are part of the nuance. In science, distinction is the habit of always seeking alternate explanations even when there is an obvious one forwarded.

And then, contradiction. This art does not imply there are no truths, but that truth is more so because it stands the test of an attack against it. Relativism, where good and true is what I make them, is the failure of contradiction, because where truth and good are arbitrary, there is no possibility of contradiction. Useful contradictions to ask include, “In what way might I be wrong?” “What facts have I missed?” “If in the future this project failed, why would it have failed?” “How might I do this better?”

Furthermore, Guitton writes that judgment happens after these three arts. Thus, the conclusion of a contradiction is only an input to the judgment itself. Similarly election and distinction prepare the way for a judgment, and all three draw from ideas that have been combined in many ways in the process of invention.

Which implies that during the inventive stage we may relax and play around, even entertaining absurdities for fun.

In short, the value I draw from Guitton is that if I were asked “How can one think well?”, my answer would be Gather facts, combine them with Invention, perform Election, Distinction, Contradiction in no particular order or iteration, then Judge. As this process is a way to arrive at understanding, we will need other processes we call “management” when we want to translate understanding to action.

Other practical ways of putting Guitton’s art of thinking to practice:

  1. Cultivate adaptability:Regularly expose yourself to new experiences, ideas, and perspectives. Be open to changing your opinion or approach when presented with new evidence or information. Practice flexibility in problem-solving by experimenting with different methods and strategies.
  2. Develop independent thinking: Question established norms and beliefs, rather than accepting them without examination.Practice critical thinking skills, such as evaluating evidence, identifying logical fallacies, and considering alternative viewpoints. Develop self-awareness and recognize your own biases and assumptions, actively working to challenge and overcome them.
  3. Embrace interdisciplinary thinking: Study and engage with a wide range of disciplines, subjects, and perspectives. Look for connections and commonalities between seemingly unrelated topics or ideas. Collaborate with others from diverse backgrounds and areas of expertise to gain new insights and broaden your understanding.

(Q.C. 230510)

Four Books on Thinking

The Art of Thinking Clearly by Rolf Dobelli (1966 – ) explores cognitive biases and errors in human judgment and decision-making. It presents a collection of short chapters, each on a cognitive bias or fallacy, and provides insights into why these biases occur and how to recognize and counteract them.

To think more clearly, consider the following suggestions by the author:

  1. Be aware of cognitive biases: Familiarize yourself with common cognitive biases, such as confirmation bias, anchoring, sunk cost fallacy, and availability heuristic. Being aware of these biases can help you recognize when they might be influencing your thinking.
  2. Question your assumptions: When making decisions or judgments, examine the underlying assumptions you hold. Be willing to question them and consider alternative perspectives.
  3. Seek disconfirming evidence: Actively look for evidence that contradicts your beliefs or opinions. This can help you avoid confirmation bias and ensure a more balanced view of the situation.
  4. Consider the base rate: When evaluating probabilities, consider the base rate (the underlying probability of an event occurring) rather than relying solely on anecdotal evidence or personal experiences.
  5. Beware of overconfidence: Recognize that we often overestimate our abilities and the accuracy of our beliefs. Be open to revising your beliefs and opinions when presented with new information.
  6. Avoid emotional decision-making: Try to separate your emotions from the situation when making decisions. Emotional decisions can lead to irrational choices and worsen cognitive biases.
  7. Practice critical thinking: Develop your critical thinking skills by questioning information, considering multiple perspectives and explanations, and evaluating the quality of evidence and arguments.
  8. Slow down your thinking: Take the time to reflect on your thoughts and decisions, rather than jumping to conclusions or acting impulsively.
  9. Learn from your mistakes: When you make an error in judgment or decision-making, acknowledge it, analyze what went wrong, and use the experience to improve your future thinking.
  10. Foster an open-minded attitude: Cultivate an open-minded and curious approach to learning, embracing new ideas and perspectives, and being willing to change your mind when presented with compelling evidence.

Evolution is the simple answer to how these biases landed in our brain. One theory is that our hunter-gatherer ancestors were in constant danger from predators and rapidly changing environments. Those who ran away at a suspicious sound were not eaten, while those who sat down to calculate the possibilities died. We also inherited a fear of standing out, as this meant being kicked out of our comfort zone within the hunter-gatherer groups where teamwork and conformity meant survival. We also inherited a fear of the dark.

We also inherited rational thought, which made possible art, science, technology, government — culture, which occupied more and more of our time as we increased our control of nature.

What we call cognitive biases, therefore, do not serve us too well in many modern situations. Imagine a hunter-gatherer with his finger on the nuclear button. We have developed science and art and forms of government, forms of expression and vocabularies that span cultural contexts that require us now to think more about the consequences of our actions, whether we are doing that alone or in groups. That kind of thinking — alternatives, consequences, multiple actors and circumstances — may be described as slow, in contrast to the hunter-gatherer mode which is fast.

Daniel Kahneman (1934 -) in Thinking Fast and Slow presents a more thorough and entertaining description of these two systems that function like built-in programs in the brain. The Fast part is easy, it doesn’t take much effort. It is good for escaping from a sudden threat of a head-on collision. Or when someone pulls out a knife with murder in mind. Or when you’re just enjoying the sunshine, or watching a B-movie, where the point precisely is to relax from a day of heavy decision making. The Slow part is that decision making. It takes careful effort.

Because it’s easy, Fast is where we’re likely to be at any given time. When we need Slow, Kahneman suggests: BREATHE. Like four counts in, eight counts out. Or count down — 100, 93, 86, 79… . You may be familiar with the 5-second Rule made popular by Mel Robbins (1968- ): when you want to do something, like go up to an attractive person, count down 5-4-3-2-1, then GO do it. Counting deactivates Fast; counting down leaves you no more choice after 1.

These put Slow on the driver’s seat. He will tire more easily, so keep some funny cat videos in your files. Then it’s back to Slow and to serious work.

But Slow doesn’t have to be serious; it can in fact be enjoyable. An enjoyable activity is mainly so because it is easy. Wit, humor, original insight are, in addition, fun. Entertainment can be Slow AND enjoyable. Any guides on how to do that?

I present two: Jean Guitton’s New Art of Thinking, and Edward de Bono’s Thinking Hats. Systematic practice of their methods make thinking easier. I will describe them from both Fast and Slow thinking perspectives.

Jean Guitton (1901 -1999) in Nouvel Art de Penser, made a schema consisting of three “arts” of thinking. These are: Finding the Essence, Classification, and Contradiction. The arts represent different ways of looking at a problem, an opportunity, a book, a movie — and the arts put a system in thinking and make the process reproducible.

Finding the Essence. Fast has to grasp whether an attack is a mugging or a murder attempt, Slow has time to gather evidence for a court case. How do you summarize in one sentence the book you just read? In one sentence, what is this painting saying? Find the essence of a problem, the question at heart, not at the periphery, the cause, not the symptom. Data gathering itself is neither part of Slow or Fast; more on that later. Finding the essence (and the other two arts) is what we do to data.

Classification. Fast has to exclude scratch injuries and focus on bleeding injuries, Slow has the time to weigh what internal damages may require repair and how. What are top three issues in this debate? To what school of art does this painter belong to? In how many acts can we summarize this book? Which parts of this essay represent opinion and which represent speculation? Dobelli advices that we read every good book at least twice. I think that by doing that we are able to apply the arts in a concentrated way. The first reading is to get the essence, the second to classify.

Contradiction. Fast has to decide whether his first impression that someone approaching him in a conference is hostile, or whether it might mean something else; Slow has the time to identify what that something else might be. How might I be wrong? How might this author be wrong (or if you disagree, how might he be right)? In what circumstances does the model apply and not apply? In what way is this movie (that I love) bad? Contradiction is productive not destructive: if you attack yourself and defend well, then your belief becomes stronger. It is a high level kind of thinking that is best done when one has already read a work or watched a movie at least once.

Edward de Bono (1933-2021) in Six Thinking Hats invites the thinker to name his thinking style at the moment, imagining himself wearing hats of different colors.

White hat. Data gathering mode. The thinker is a sponge, emotionally neutral. Fast needs only to see; Slow would may notice temperature and smells as well on the road. I remember one advice: a good journalist notes down what’s important; a great journalist notes down everything.

Yellow hat. The thinker is logical. Fast intuits or infers from one or two data before acting, Slow with with statistical samples, perhaps engage in debate with colleagues before concluding.

Green hat. The thinker thinks out of the box, but it’s hard to say how quickly that happens. Slow has discovered the secrets of nature at a bath or sitting under an apple tree. Deadlines and danger seem to help. Fast, pressured for a solution to come up with a name for an NGO, thinks about deities, uses that as short for some name made up to fit the deity’s. Slow studies, reads, gets mission and vision, interviews, gathers votes, then comes up with a name while taking a shower. Necessity is the mother of invention, and imminent death the trigger of eternal haikus.

Red hat. Emotions to a thinker are signals to the real thing, and good thinkers never think of them as the real thing. Red is anger, hatred, sadness, excitement. Fast will lift a car of a dying child without thinking of anything else. Slow will compose his thoughts and inspire his soldiers, promising them that tonight they dine in Hades.

Black hat. Pessimists balance, and are balanced. They work best not in isolation. Fast day trader suffers the immediate backlash from being pessimistic on a risky stock. Slow, also suffers but is more likely to develop depression and anxiety as exposure to the pessimism virus turns from acute to chronic.

Blue hat. The Blue hat is a coordinator, an integrator. Preferably this is the province of Slow, who has to listen patiently, take notes, and read between the lines. Blue also invites the others, “Let’s all wear yellow hats now,” whatever. Fast is the general who must decide with his team whether it is now time to call the charge. Slow is the general who works on a game board with his team.

That’s 4 books: Dobelli, Kahneman, Guitton, and De Bono, to be read at least once, with a mix of thinking styles.

(Q.C. 230510)