Science and Faith: Does science explain everything?

No legit scientist ever believes that.

Louis Pasteur (1822-1895), one of the greatest scientists who ever lived, was a devout Catholic. Image: https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcTM9_NNjzgAgjpzB6X8K8TE2PRKuqhK-PgjYw&usqp=CAU

In fact, most people do not really understand the way scientists think. It may, indeed, look like our job is to prove explanations, which we call hypotheses. But, in fact, we work to DISPROVE our hypotheses. When we fail to disprove a hypothesis, we don’t might “Therefore, that’s the way it works,” as a shortcut. What we really mean to say is: “It is probable that’s the way it works.

What else is a probable explanation?” is another thing we think about all the time. Another way of saying all this is that scientific explanations (theories, hypotheses) are falsifiable, i.e., they can be proven wrong. If an explanation cannot be proven wrong, it simply means it is not within our field to study it with our methods.

Can I prove that a picture is beautiful? Can I prove that a sunset is awesome? Can I even explain what awesome is? I once visited the Louvre in Paris with the renowned artist and philosopher Dr. Paul Dumol. We were contemplating a huge mural whose author I forgot. I thought it was beautiful. But then after a few seconds Dr. Dumol just said “It’s decadent,” and walked on. It’s a judgment that did not require an explanation.

Shakespeare was right. “There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your philosophy.” And there are more things in heaven and earth than are dreamt of in all of science.

Scientism is an exaggerated understanding of what science is and what it can do for us. Scientism blows science as such all out of proportion, and then aims to organize the world according to the exaggeration. We can say that scientism is the view that science alone explains all things, and science alone is the guide to life.

But it’s fair to ask: Is reason or faith sufficient for life? Many people equate reason with science. They make a jump and conclude the same about truth: truth is anything validated by the methods of science. In other words, truth is what can be measured. This is scientism, an exaggeration of science. It’s a variation of the belief that science alone explains all things.

Science is one thing, Scientism is another. Science is powerful, useful, tremendous benefits and insights. And knows its limits. Scientific methods are designed for specific questions under specific conditions we call experiments. Many things simply lie beyond experiment, such as the decadence in a painting. The attributes of the Infinite Being are clearly beyond these methods, too. Certain attributes that underlie the meaning and the purpose of life, such as income, job satisfaction, and sense of poverty may be measured numerically, but no one really says all life is about income.

Science is also not adequate for settling moral issues. This is what we call in ethics the Should/Is problem: Does the fact that something is so and so mean we should do so and so about it? Science and Ethics are two disciplines precisely because of this problem. I’m not saying science and ethics contradict just because they don’t look at reality in the same way. However, I imply that a rich life involves as appreciation of both sets of concepts and methods.

I do understand, however, that the should/is problem is difficult, just as it is difficult to understand philosophical or scientific concepts over which we have little training to handle. Some, however, take the easy way out, raise their hands in resignation, and say that God, meaning, and morality are totally private matters to many.

Which leads to this ultimate conclusion: truth is what I make it to be. Which in itself is logically untenable.

I viewed this Youtube recently of a man holding up a sign that said “Feminists are smelly.” A woman walks up to him, and angrily accuses him of saying offensive things to women. With a smile, the guy goes, “Oh, are you a woman?” The woman was caught of guard, and could only reply: “Oh, so that’s it. I’m non binary, it doesn’t matter.” He was using woke reasoning, relativistic reasoning, against her. If everything is private, then everything is right, then nothing is wrong, then I should have no qualms selling you the gun that will kill your mother.

Science was never meant to be a compass to life. The proverbs we learned as children are not scientific statements in the sense that no one has done a randomized clinical trial to prove that the early bird gets the worm. But these parables convey truths, which we have verified through experience — imperfect experience, and it’s also true that the early worm gets eaten. More importantly, we know instinctively, we know through common sense that proverbs are true. They’re not just “scientific” truth, meaning, truth is not limited to just what is scientific.

But what underlies the truth of experiment and the truth of common sense is reason. God has given everyone the capacity to reason. In a sense, it reason is a spark of the spiritual because it covers more than just matter. Like sound, we can hear things within a RANGE. Similarly, no science even combined extend through the whole range of reason. Philosophy can go beyond the range of scientific reason, yet can’t go beyond into the reason of contemplation. We experience this reason as conscience, a judgment we make on practical acts. We feel bad when we do something wrong, without necessarily having to go through a complex logical process, and that feeling keeps us from getting into trouble. In some cases, though, our conscience will require a long logical study before it makes a judgment. We’re able to do both simple and complex reasoning, intuition and logic.

Reality is not all science, not all faith. Both enrich our minds, our wills and our emotions.

God created us and gives us the gift of reason, and in a special way, the gift of faith. By reason we come to know God, by faith we come to obey and love Him. And for what purpose? To find, then to be, with Him whom we came to know.

(Q.C., 231121)

Science and Faith: Wisdom

What is the relation between Science and wisdom?

St. Thomas Aquinas (1225-1274), a great philosopher and theologian, advised us that, as we use the light of reason that belongs to human beings by nature, we should also have an open mind to the supernatural: to the possibility that, by grace, a higher light could illuminate our minds.

Thomas Aquinas. Image: https://www-images.christianitytoday.com/images/67498.jpg?h=337&w=600

This supernatural light — the light of faith — does not extinguish the light of reason or undermine the truths discovered by human sciences; rather, it supplements and aids reason, helping us to see more deeply into the truth of reality as a whole, which comes from God and has its ultimate destiny in him.

The idea that what we see is not all there is — I get that. But, for that idea to lead to wisdom one must intuit that there is a purpose in anything that exists. We do not have to know what that purpose is ultimately; perhaps all we can see is an immediate purpose that we neither understand nor approve of.

And this brings us to the idea of miracles. Are they real? Why, for instance, would God resurrect a dead body if the laws of nature, that God also wrote, say that corpses decompose?

Well, God, who wrote the laws of nature, is certainly free to suspend them for a reason, or for no reason. That’s what free will is. But resurrection, or any miracle such as the sudden cure of a cancer, is not in itself unreasonable. The legend of the Phoenix, and the amazing phenomenon of the placebo effect, point to the idea that we do not find such suspensions of the laws of nature offensive to reason.

What we don’t know is the purpose. And we don’t have to. What’s done is done.

The immediate question is: what do we make of it?

For one, I see the arbitrariness of a miracle as evidence of freedom in God. And if God is free, I see not contradiction in the idea that we, too, are free. We can suspend our own laws. We can’t suspend the laws of nature as much as God can, but scientist and engineers have certainly done a great deal in using those laws to — literally fly to the moon, a miracle by any standard.

And what about the first big miracle: Creation? Is there EVIDENCE at all for what we believe, that the world was created? I don’t take the literal 6-day narrative to be a scientific description of anything other than the idea that creation unfolded. This is consistent with physical theories that there were stages in the formation of the universe subsequent to the Big Bang. As to that, modern physics can only go to the fraction of time right after the Big Bang. Our physics do not go beyond matter and energy, and so if there was anything before that — by definition, what came before the Big Bang — our laws wouldn’t grasp them.

But what’s done is done. The universe is here. What do we make of it?

We make of it what we choose to. Believe. Or not believe. One cannot say “I believe in science, and I do NOT believe in science.” That would be offensive tor reason. But it’s possible to believe both faith and science, because they are not contradictory ideas.

They do explore different subjects. Science investigates observable nature, using specific tools depending on what science we’re talking about. A biologist does not work with exactly the same tools as a theoretical physicist. We use those tools following the general rules of reason, such as hypothetical reasoning, deduction, induction, abstraction.

Theologians and philosophers also follow general rules of reason and have their own tools.

So, when we step back we find that it’s possible to see all things with a perspective that includes whatever knowledge ALL of these different fields contribute. I know it’s difficult, especially today, since knowledge is so vast. But it’s possible for a biologist like myself to learn a little of what the metaphysicist or the psychologist does. Their perspective elevates me for a while from my focus, and I get to see more of the world, and I appreciate the greater reality that has to into my grasp.

And then, looking at all this, I might see beauty, order, harmony. And then I ask myself: there must be something that unites all of this. Or else everything would just be contradicting each other. Not only is there a purpose in every little thing, but a purpose itself in the fact that I can know them.

That purpose, I have come to conclude, is for us to acknowledge Reason as the source of all this order in the physical and non-physical worlds. And if Reason puts order, it is for a purpose. I can intuit what that purpose is: for the mind to recognize the Creator, thank the Creator, and give our minds and hearts to the Creator.

As many a scientist in history has done.

I did not reach that conclusion in an instant. Perhaps, the normal thing is for a person to discover perspective, ultimate perspective, over the course of his or her life. Perhaps some will not reach a completely satisfactory answer. But if God created minds to search for answers, He will perhaps not allow that they do not reach the end of that purpose. If they do not find the answers in this life, then they must find it in the next. Immortality, therefore, must be true.

And that’s the ultimate destiny of minds: of people.

(Q.C., 231117)

Science and Faith: Introduction

Is there a conflict between science and faith? Is one a lower kind of knowledge than the other? Has science debunked faith? Does evolution debunk faith? Or quantum theory? Does God exist?

No, there’s no conflict.

I get asked these questions sometimes, and they’re not difficult to answer. I know that my scope of knowledge and technique as a scientist are rather limited, and I don’t think I’m arrogant enough to think that I’m better than any non-scientist. On the contrary, the more I know and discover the more I realize how little I actually know, and the more I realize how much of nature is beyond the grasp of my tools.

Yet, the fact that my tools allow me to draw conclusions from experiments indicate that nature is reasonable, i.e., understood. With a little leap of intuition, I grasp that the reasonableness of nature is a reflection of a Reason that governs it. This sentiment I share with many fellow scientists.

Image: https://www.magiscenter.com/hubfs/scientists%20who%20believe%20in%20god%20magis%20center.jpg

On the other hand, I’m not naive that I don’t get it why people don’t see things the way we do. Most fellow scientists I work with are not atheists, but we do know some very good ones who are. I understand this. I understand that experience, feelings, intuitions are equally tools of reason, and like the tools of science they can be inadequate and lead to wrong conclusions. I therefore think that although tools are normally used in a certain correct way, not everyone will use them so.

But the basic substrate of all we experience is Reality. And this Reality is internally consistent. If science and faith deal with reality, then there should be no conflict. They might look at the same thing from different perspectives. Disagreements arise from differences in perspectives and in my experience are almost always reconcilable.

These different perspectives represent different instruments in an orchestra. Each player doesn’t have to play on their own. But when they do, the result is beautiful.

I researched these series of essays to prepare for a talk that I eventually delivered before an audience from varying professions. And I began that talk in the same way with which began this introduction:

Conflict is an illusion.

(Q.C., 231117)

Why I love riding

The open road, the feel of the wind, the SOUND of a finely tuned engine: the sonnet of motorcycle riding. It’s not just a mode of transportation; it’s an escapade, a visceral dance with the asphalt that stirs the soul, sharpens the senses, and quickens the heartbeat.

Why do I love to ride motorcycles? Let me count the ways.

There’s that undeniable sense of freedom that comes the moment you swing a leg over that two-wheeled masterpiece. It’s as if the motorcycle whispers, “Leave your worries behind; we’re about to embark on a journey of unbridled liberation.” The world suddenly becomes your playground, and the winding roads, your canvas.

There’s the unique camaraderie among riders—a secret society bound by a mutual love for the road and the indescribable feeling of the wind in your face. It’s a nod, a wave, or a shared moment of understanding at a stoplight, connecting you with fellow adventurers who’ve also discovered the magic of life on two wheels.

The symphony of sensations that comes with the territory. The low hum of the engine rising into a roar as you accelerate, your senses heightened with each twist of the throttle. The wind becomes a companion, the risk of violent death a constant reminder to love life.

And then, there’s the sheer joy of maneuvering a machine with the agility and grace of a dancer. Leaning into curves becomes an art form, and winding through the Quezon Memorial Circle an exercise in understanding the psychology of other drivers. It’s not just a means to an end; it’s an immersive experience that transforms mundane trips into focused escapades.

Riding at the start of the day is like jumpstarting the mind to be keenly aware of everything. It’s a time to NOT think. I don’t even pray when riding, and I can’t even focus on any one thing or thought but rather on everything at the same time. On a motorcycle, awareness of everything is everything. The feeling of vulnerability is part of that love affair. Stripped of the protective cocoon of a car, with only your wits to protect you, every ride becomes a conscious, dynamic engagement with the environment. From rain to burning sun, to the smell of a jeepney’s black exhaust, it’s all total, you take it all. You accept — and appreciate. And thank God for everything.

There’s also an undeniable cool factor associated with being a motorcyclist. The jackets, the helmet, the unspoken understanding that you’re part of a select group who’ve chosen to embrace life with a little more wind in their hair. It’s not rebellion; it’s individuality and a refusal to conform to the conventional. The conventional ways of transport.

And let’s not forget the technicalities that go with it. The choice of gear, maintenance schedules, and the science of predicting the weather before riding.

I used to drive a smaller motorcycle for some years, then a car for, and now I’m gladly back on two wheels. A car is safer, it’s cool, if the aircon is working. I can play CD’s. I can’t do any of that on a motorcycle. But a car is more expensive to maintain. And the sitting posture on a car is BAD for the back. In contrast, the posture of a rider especially on a cruiser type like the Honda Rebel 500 is so much healthier. I have far less back problems now since I went back to riding a motorcycle.

The Honda Rebel 500. Image: https://i2-prod.mirror.co.uk/incoming/article23081048.ece/ALTERNATES/s615b/0_Swift-And-actually-surprisingly-comfortable-at-motorway-speeds.jpg

In the end, my love for riding motorcycles can be distilled into a simple truth: it’s a visceral, life-affirming experience that goes beyond risk, rain, and whatever else. It’s a celebration of freedom, a connection with kindred spirits, and a perpetual pursuit of joy on the open road. So, here’s to the next curve. Let the wheels keep turning, and the journey never end.

(Q.C. 231109)

Not every dream comes to pass

Most plans never come to pass. Most dreams never turn real.

I got a Honda Rebel 500 instead of this drop down gorgeous beast, the Yamaha V Star 650, :

It was an easy decision. The Yamaha is just not readily available in this country, not even second hand. The Honda, on the other hand, is popular and the after sales support is better than Yamaha. There’s even a local Honda Rebel and CL500 Club Philippines with 19k members (https://www.facebook.com/groups/HondaRebelClubPhilippines).

The Honda might not be at the top of its class, but it is a reliable unit. It has the lines of a cruiser I’m looking for. It’s chain driven, not shaft driven which was a feature I liked about the Yamaha. It’s not at the top of its class for highway riding, but it’s designed to be efficient. The back suspension is too hard, and the foot rests are in the middle, which aren’t great. But the Honda is FAST. It saves more gas, and it is darn stable.

But I really bought the Honda because the opportunity came at exactly the right time.

I found it at random. I was planning to buy a big bike and was searching for good second-hand units at P500k max. I began with searching for gear, and then searched FB Marketplace and other sites for second-hand Yamaha’s. I found one, but it had been posted some months ago, and was found in Aklan province. I’m not going to Aklan just to get it. But then among the items that came up were a number of Rebels. One caught my eye.

The Honda Rebel 500 had been posted FB for 4 days prior when I saw it. It was a 2023 model, and it looked brand new; the odo said 400 km. Not even done with the break-in! I immediately messaged the seller: “Why are you selling this?” In my mind, why the hell would anyone sell a new beauty like this for P360,000.00, 10% lower than the market price.

Everyone knows that classic motorcycles don’t depreciate.

When Jay V replied, I immediately answered and scheduled a visit the next day, a Saturday. I went to his place and checked out the unit. I did not have to investigate. The SOUND it made! I knew immediately the bike was in excellent, even pristine, condition. He and his wife were weekend riders and were into big scooters. He had purchased the Rebel because his wife found an all-women Rebel group on FB and she wanted to join them. So, he purchased the bike for about P400,000.00. But when the missus tried it out, she realized it wasn’t for her. She couldn’t quite manage with pedal transmission. They decided to get rid of it.

By the following Wednesday I paid Jay in cash.

This is how the Rebel looked when purchased:

And this is how it looked after I had the saddle bags and crash guards installed by Chrismac Metalworks (https://www.facebook.com/chrismac.metalworks/):

This is me on it. This was a long ride I made with a friend last 30 October 2023 to Dona Remedios Trinidad (DRT) in Bulacan. Erwin’s bike is on the right:

I used to ride a Suzuki Thunder 125 for 6 years between 2011-17, then sold it — to my big regret later on. Then I bought a Mazda 3 and used it as regular commute between 2017-2023. One night while the team was on field collecting samples Erwin and I talked about doing a long ride “one of these days”. He had one, and so I said I could rent. Which started me looking for MC rentals in the area. Nothing looked interesting. Until I asked myself: why do I have to rent?

I had been planning to get rid of the Mazda 3 one day — it’s 15 years old, and the latest repairs have been quite costly. Plus this war in the Middle East, forget about gas going down. But that was supposed to be 5 years from now. I said, let’s just advance it. So there. The Rebel is my regular commute. And I love it. It has its inconveniences, but its charms, that I’ll write about next.

Epilogue: The Mazda 3 is for sale, in THEORY. It is 15 years old and is in very good condition. But I doubt if anyone will want to buy a 15 year old car. I’m just as glad if no one buys it, because it’s still good to have a car around.

(Q.C. 231109)

Elegance and Finding Forrester

Elegance is a quality that encompasses beauty, simplicity, and grace; it goes beyond mere appearances. Rooted in beliefs about oneself, others, and the world, it is the ability to exhibit refinement and sophistication in one’s conduct, manners, and appearance. This talk emphasizes elegance in men, or manliness.

Elegance is reflected in the way men carry themselves with confidence and poise. It’s a reminder that they can be strong, confident, and respectful while embracing their individuality and vulnerability. By vulnerability we mean humility, not the effeminate sentimentalism common especially in Filipino movies and manifest among many young people as public confessions in the form of blogs. Humility implies not just discretion but also respect and harmony in personal and professional relationships.

Since respect is fundamental, I will go into it in a little more detail. How Do Manly Men Show Respect?

Manly men listen actively. They give their full attention, maintaining eye contact, and not interrupting. They ask questions that convey genuine interest, not just for the sake of asking questions. With the exception of “Hi, how are you?”, which are rituals, not real questions.

A good question worth mastering is the soup question. What is a soup question? It’s a question with an answer that will benefit the person asking. The term comes from the 2000 movie Finding Forrester. The movie stars Sean Connery (1930-2020) as the reclusive writer William Forrester, and Rob Brown as the talented poor teenager Jamal Wallace.

Sean Connery and Rob Brown in Finding Forrester (2000) Image: https://m.media-amazon.com/images/S/pv-target-images/d960d66695bff00796ff039da7dc307b5f561b348599c2c95bfe80683bca911c.jpg

In one scene, Jamal asks William why his — Willliam’s — soup doesn’t firm up at the top like his mom’s always did growing up. To which William replies:

“The object of a question is to obtain information that matters only to us. You were wondering why your soup doesn’t firm up? Probably because your mother was brought up in a house that never wasted milk in soup. That question was a good one, in contrast to, “Do I ever go outside?”, which fails to meet the criteria of obtaining information that matters to you.”

William Forrester (S. Connery) in Finding Forrester (2000)

Here’s another example:

A man was walking down Pondicherry Beach Road when he turned to a café that he frequented every now & then. This space was originally owned by the Aurobindo Society and had been handed to Gratitude Farms who ran the café from August 2020. But this morning, the man saw that it wasn’t Gratitude Farms, but rather it was Zuka’s Café that was the new manager of the space.

His first instinct was to reach inside his pocket and dial the gentleman from Gratitude Farms (someone he knew) and ask him what happened – how come he was no longer in-charge of the place anymore! Then the man thought to himself:

Is this really a soup question?’

The answer was a firm NO! So he put his phone back inside his pocket and continued on his walk.

This shows an important point: Manly men know what’s valuable to them and don’t get sidetracked easily. Like gossip.

There’s this billboard along the North Luzon Expressway.

Image: https://preview.redd.it/hindi-naman-plastik-si-marites-eh-chismosa-sya-v0-rw0s8uucctlb1.jpg?width=640&crop=smart&auto=webp&s=b59747f63c5db2a5e3b9c716f7871c099868fe3f

Elegant men say “please” and “thank you,” addressing people by their titles or preferred names, and using courteous phrases.

They respect personal boundaries. They ask for consent and do not invade someone’s personal space without permission. They are attuned to the comfort levels of others and adjust their behavior accordingly. They show understanding and compassion towards others’ feelings and experiences. They treat everyone with fairness, regardless of their gender, race, background, or beliefs.

They are punctual and do not waste other people’s time. They make an effort to honor commitments they’ve made. Yesterday, because of traffic, Councilor Levy Orcales of Baguio City arrived late to give the closing remarks at the annual conference of the Philippine Society for Cell Biology. He apologized to the audience at least 5 times before, during, and after his speech. A very intelligent speech, by the way.

Manly men express their opinions and feedback in a respectful and considerate manner. They express appreciation and gratitude for the help they receive from others. They offer support and encouragement in their turn.

While it’s natural to feel anger or frustration at times, men control their emotions and avoid reacting in a disrespectful or aggressive manner. They strive to handle difficult situations calmly and rationally. They respect autonomy and do not manipulate others into making choices against their will.

Finally, personal style and grooming manifest manly elegance. While trends may change, timeless and well-groomed looks remain a hallmark of an elegant man. Attention to detail, from well-fitted clothing to a well-kept appearance, is a reflection of the respect he has for himself and those around him.

Elegance remains a timeless and valuable trait, embodying the virtues of refinement, confidence, respect, and personal growth. Manly elegance is not about conforming but rather about embracing the full spectrum of one’s character and demonstrating that true strength can coexist with grace and sophistication.

Trivia: Rob Brown, who played Jamal Wallace, auditioned to play an extra in Finding Forrester; he just wanted enough money to pay for his phone bill. But the director, Gus Van Sant, seeing how naturally he embodied the role, immediately gave him the lead. Critics have praised how well Brown held his own sharing scenes with Sean Connery, some even saying that he acted better than the veteran actor even though he had no training. Brown, who grew up in Harlem, was a scholar and graduated with a major in psychology from Amherst College MA in 2006. A former college varsity football player, the actor is also a philanthropist advocating for education for the underprivileged.

(Baguio City, 231027)

What a university professor did for sabbatical

A defining characteristics of the Catholic faith is its unwavering commitment to the poor and vulnerable. This commitment is not merely about providing charity, but about recognizing, loving, and serving Christ in those most in need.

The Gospel of Matthew shows how. “Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me” (Matthew 25:40). These words from Our Lord form the core of the Church’s social mission. It is a call to see Christ in each person, especially those marginalized by society, and to respond with love.

The Church’s concern for the poor is reflected in the Catechism of the Catholic Church. It states, “The Eucharist commits us to the poor. To receive in truth the Body and Blood of Christ given up for us, we must recognize Christ in the poorest, his brethren” (Catechism of the Catholic Church, 1397).

We all know about Bett Ramirez from UA&P and the work she did with the Aetas during the pandemic. I dug a little more into that story.

OK. She was in her hometown in Castillejos, Zambales when COVID-19 struck. At that time she was on sabbatical. What to do? Hike? Read? Attend online seminars? She decided with her husband Lambert that this was not what they were going to do.

The Aetas are an indigenous people now mostly found in the Zambales mountains. They are nomadic and skilled in hunting and jungle survival. They live in simple nipa shelters: made of bamboo and kogon grass roofing or sometimes GI sheets. The flooring is the earth. An elevated bamboo platform serves as bed for the family to sleep at night. There are no private toilets and no plumbing. There is electricity only in some sectors.

The couple asked their friends in Manila for all sorts of basic goods. Soon, colleagues and acquaintances, from abroad, relatives, and many others gave donations in cash and kind. Cash donations, which went to buy rice, cooking oil, sugar, groceries, laundry soap, toiletries and nail cutters.They had quite a load of goods when they began in September 2020.

Good were destined for Kanaynayan, where about 500 families lived, distributed in Sitios Nilasin, Balenting, Papaya, and Lomboy.

There are more children than adults in these communities. There are many young mothers and fathers. Most have no formal education or religious instruction.

They packed the goods and gave priority to the “poorest of the poor” in these different localities, and distributed the goods in the Sitios.

Image: https://opusdei.org/en/article/the-poorest-of-the-poor-not-to-be-left-behind/

One of these was Sitio Nilasin. A teacher friend, Jean, who taught Alternative Learning System (ALS) modules in Sitio Lomboy came to Bett one day asking for help to install a GI sheet roof on their nipa hut classroom. Jean needed a place to hold the Department of Education (DepEd) ALS modular classes and other educational activities for the children. The classroom was run down. Bett thought bigger: construct a new, multi-purpose study center.

Her niece Erin, a chemistry student in the US, helped Bett to put up the study center with funding. An elderly Aeta leader, Manuel Romualdo, owned a property in Sitio Nilasin and agreed to have the Study Center built there.

On September 15, Bett, Lambert, Jean and Jean’s colleagues started their climb. They crossed two rivers and climbed the muddy slopes to mark the spot where they would construct the 4×5-meter study center. Bett designed it so that, when needed, the place can open up to an overflow crowd of learners outside.

To involve the Aetas and make them feel ownership, the group asked them to provide bamboo for the walls and labor to construct the study center. The barangay captain lent an Elf truck to bring construction materials up the mountain to a certain point. From there the Aetas carried them to the site.

On October 29, the new Study Center with a GI sheet roof, nice walls, and concrete flooring was opened.

Image: https://opusdei.org/en/article/the-poorest-of-the-poor-not-to-be-left-behind/

A friend, Maria Fe, donated monoblock tables and chairs. Erin sent microscope replicas, anatomy and chemistry posters, experiment kits, beakers, math boards. They furnished the place with books for all ages, learning materials, blackboard, bulletin board, crayons and other educational items gathered from friends.

One day they decided to give a book to each child, and were moved to see how he or she would hug it as if it were a bar of gold!

Image: https://opusdei.org/en/article/the-poorest-of-the-poor-not-to-be-left-behind/

They installed electricity and brought in a donated television set. Now people could watch TV shows such as DepEd learning shows, news, “teleseryes” and even Holy Mass. It became their community center and they committed to take care of it. A custodian was elected.

Didn’t stop there. The Study Center became a base to deliver goods to the families residing higher in the mountains. She gave Marie, their custodian, a smartphone so they could communicate and coordinate the activities held there. It was also used as emergency phone by the residents.

Her daughter Vyera, who works as a nurse in the UK, made hygiene videos that Bett showed to the residents through her tablet.

Then Bett thought of inviting the parish priest, Fr. Joel Huerto, come to celebrate the first ever Catholic Mass in the Castillejos mountains. This happened on March 8, 2021 at the Sitio Nilasin Study Center. Bett says that after 500 years Catholic presence has begun in this “far away place” invisible to Google Maps.

Image: https://opusdei.org/en/article/the-poorest-of-the-poor-not-to-be-left-behind/

Other things needed to be done. Sitio Nilasin sourced its fresh water from a mountain spring. It was pitiful to see how water was made to flow from the spring to a 4×5 ft. cemented basin on the ground. Murky water was channeled to the houses through a network of small garden hoses.

Thanks to You Tube, Bett devised a water system that used sealed drums laid side by side. A 500m hose attached directly to the mountain spring brought water down to the drums located close to the houses. Erin secured the funds.

https://opusdei.org/en/article/the-poorest-of-the-poor-not-to-be-left-behind/

They had to deal with misunderstandings. Someone blocked the mountain spring so that they could not connect the main hose. Some families requested a drum and a hose for their exclusive use. They could not address everybody’s issues, but in the end, on March 12, the water system in Sitio Nilasin was completed as planned.

They taught the residents how to maintain it and keep it clean. They instructed them to grow plants around the elevated drums to prevent muddy surroundings.

There were other pressing needs, such as young fathers and mothers who barely have work skills or livelihood options. They started conducting carpentry training and requested friends to donate used tools.

For the women who sell their raw crops in the market, they put up a cooking space and brought in skilled people to teach them food processing, to add to their products for sale.

For the children, all sorts of learning materials were sourced. They plan to invite more teachers to assist them in answering their DepEd ALS modules. Nurses are also lined up to come and teach good health practices. They need donors for regular food supply, as this is a basic need of families with many children.

Bett says that during the pandemic of 2020-2021, God gave them this opportunity to serve the “poorest of the poor.” They were also able to connect with many people and gave them the same opportunity through giving their time and resources to support her group’s efforts.

This was Bett’s sabbatical. And the project continues to this day.

(Q.C., 231015)

On Chinese philosophy and the Wisdom of the Hands

There is Wisdom in the Hands.

The solution to many of our problems lies in the hands.

Craftsmen find meaning through their craft, and prove the hands are an extension of the mind and the soul.

The human hand reflects the peculiar nature of the body. The bird’s wing is specialized for flying; but the bird can do little else. The human hand is not specialized and can do anything. Just like the human spirit which aspires to paint a canvas or to send a spaceship to Mars.

Part of the human condition however, is pain and suffering, anxiety, worry, stress. But the hands provide solutions. Under the command of thought the hands extract order from chaos, whether that chaos be on the outside or on the inside.

The great range of human powers for dealing with chaos I now summarize using kuji-kiri or hand positions. Each position of the fingers symbolizes a power. I describe each power from the point of view of Chinese philosophy, and give suggestions on how to exercise the power.

There is nothing mystical about kuji-kiri. They are a mnemonic code. Here are the positions:

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Rin (臨):

This hand sign is believed to give the practitioner strength and power over oneself and others. Chinese philosophers have offered diverse perspectives on strength and power, often emphasizing the ethical use of these qualities and their relationship to wisdom and virtue.

  1. Confucianism (Confucius, Mencius):
    • Strength through Virtue: Confucianism teaches that true strength lies in moral virtue, particularly in the virtues of benevolence (ren) and righteousness (yi). Confucius believed that a virtuous person wields ethical influence and moral authority, which endure more than physical strength or coercion.
    • Rectification of Power: Mencius stressed the importance of using power to rectify and improve society. He believed that rulers should exercise benevolent rule (ren zheng) and that power should be guided by a commitment to the well-being of the people.
  2. Daoism (Laozi, Zhuangzi):
    • Gentle and Yielding Power: Daoism advocates for a more subtle and yielding approach to power. Laozi’s philosophy suggests that one can achieve great strength through gentleness, flexibility, and aligning with the Dao (the Way). He said, “The softest things in the world overcome the hardest things.”
    • Natural Power: Zhuangzi’s writings emphasize the idea that true power comes from aligning with the natural order. Rather than asserting control over others, individuals can achieve power by embracing spontaneity and non-interference.
  3. Legalism (Han Feizi):
    • Centralized Power and Laws: Legalism, as a political philosophy, emphasizes the centralization of power and the rule of law. Han Feizi believed in the necessity of strict laws and a strong, centralized state to maintain order and enforce discipline.
  4. Buddhism (Chan/Zen Buddhism):
    • Inner Strength and Wisdom: In Chan and Zen Buddhism, strength and power are often associated with inner wisdom and spiritual insight. Meditation practices are used to cultivate mental strength and clarity, leading to enlightenment.
  5. Martial Arts Philosophy (e.g., Sun Tzu):
    • Tactical Power: Philosophical works like Sun Tzu’s The Art of War emphasize the strategic and tactical aspects of power. These texts explore the use of strategy, intelligence, and leadership as forms of strength in both military and non-military contexts.

In short , Chinese philosophers stress the ethical use of power and the significance of aligning one’s actions with higher principles and values.

Pyō (兵):

This hand sign is associated with channeling energy and creating a barrier between oneself and negative influences. Chinese philosophers have offered insights into focus and the channeling of energy as essential aspects of personal development and achievement.

  1. Confucianism (Confucius, Mencius):
    • Focused Attention on Virtue: Confucianism emphasizes the importance of focused attention on virtuous conduct. Confucius taught that individuals should concentrate their efforts on self-cultivation, ethical behavior, and the cultivation of benevolence, righteousness, and other moral virtues.
    • Channeling Inner Energy: Mencius believed in the innate goodness of human nature. He emphasized that individuals should channel their inner moral energy (ren) and cultivate their moral character through constant self-reflection and practice.
  2. Daoism (Laozi, Zhuangzi):
    • Flowing with the Dao: Aligning with the Dao (the Way) allows one’s energy to flow naturally. Laozi’s concept of wei wu wei (effortless action) suggests that individuals can achieve more by not forcing outcomes and instead harmonizing with the rhythm of the universe.
    • Inner Alchemy: Zhuangzi introduced the idea of “inner alchemy” (neidan), where one refines and purifies their inner energy through meditation and contemplation. This practice aims to cultivate a tranquil and focused mind.
  3. Buddhism (Zen Buddhism):
    • Zen Meditation: Zen Buddhism places great emphasis on meditation (zazen) as a means to channel and concentrate the mind’s energy. The practice of mindfulness and focused attention on the breath or a koan (a paradoxical statement or question) is central to Zen meditation.
    • Single-Minded Concentration: Zen teachings encourage single-minded concentration, where practitioners focus intensely on the task at hand, whether it’s meditation, tea preparation, or any daily activity. This concentration helps channel mental energy effectively.
  4. Legalism (Han Feizi):
    • Efficient Governance: Legalism, a school of thought focused on governance, stresses the efficient allocation of resources and energy within a state. Han Feizi advocated for strict laws and centralized authority to channel the energies of the people toward state objectives.
  5. Neo-Confucianism (Zhu Xi):
    • Concentration on Learning: Neo-Confucianism emphasizes focused and concentrated learning. Zhu Xi believed that deep contemplation of classical texts and self-cultivation through concentrated study could lead to moral and intellectual development.
  6. Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM):
    • Balance and Flow of Qi: TCM teaches that the balanced flow of Qi (vital energy) within the body is crucial for health and well-being. Practices like acupuncture and Qigong are used to unblock energy channels and ensure a harmonious flow of Qi.

(闘):

This hand sign is thought to help with attaining a higher level of consciousness and mental clarity. Chinese philosophy has a rich tradition that includes teachings on mindfulness and achieving clarity of mind.

  1. Confucianism (Confucius, Mencius):
    • Mindfulness of Virtue: Confucius taught that individuals should be mindful of their moral duties, relationships, and ethical principles in their daily lives.
    • Clarity through Self-Cultivation: Mencius taught that the practice of the moral virtues led to a harmonious and clear mind that led to right behavior.
  2. Daoism (Laozi, Zhuangzi):
    • Wu Wei (Non-Action): Wu wei aligns with the natural flow of the Dao and by letting go of excessive striving and desires it leads to clarity of mind.
    • Simplicity and Detachment: Laozi and Zhuangzi advocated for a simple and detached lifestyle to attain a state of tranquility and mental clarity.
  3. Buddhism (Zen Buddhism):
    • Zen Mindfulness: The practice of zazen, even “just sitting” or shikantaza aims to achieve a clear and focused mind by observing thoughts without attachment.
    • Living in the Present: Zen teachings encourage individuals to fully engage with the present moment. By letting go of past regrets and future anxieties, practitioners can experience a deep sense of clarity and enlightenment.
  4. Legalism (Han Feizi):
    • Statecraft and Clarity: Clear and strict laws maintain social order. Han Feizi believed that a well-structured and transparent legal system could bring clarity to the functioning of a state.
  5. Neo-Confucianism (Zhu Xi):
    • Mind-Heart Unity: Neo-Confucianism emphasizes the unity of the mind and heart, and achieving clarity of mind, thoughts and emotions through the study of classical texts.
  6. Yin-Yang and Five Elements Philosophy (Traditional Chinese Medicine):
    • Balance and Harmony: Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) incorporates principles of yin-yang and the five elements to maintain health and clarity of mind.

Sha (者):

This is said to be used for healing oneself and others. Traditional Chinese medicine (TCM) has a long history, and its principles and practices have been passed down through generations of healers. While specific teachings and beliefs may vary among practitioners, there are some common themes and philosophies related to healing oneself and others in TCM.

  1. Balance and Harmony: TCM places a strong emphasis on the concept of balance and harmony within the body. Good health is seen as a state of balance between opposing forces, such as Yin and Yang, and the flow of Qi through the body’s meridians. Illness arises when this balance is disrupted, and healing involves restoring harmony.
  2. Holistic Approach: Chinese healers consider the body, mind, and spirit as interconnected aspects of an individual’s overall health. Healing is not just about addressing physical symptoms but also involves promoting emotional and mental well-being.
  3. Preventive Medicine: TCM places a significant emphasis on prevention. Maintaining good health is preferable to treating illness, and many healing practices, such as acupuncture, herbal medicine, and dietary therapy, are used to prevent health problems from arising.
  4. Herbal Medicine: Chinese herbal medicine is a fundamental component of TCM. Healers use a wide range of herbs to address various health issues and imbalances. The selection of herbs is tailored to the individual’s specific condition and constitution.
  5. Acupuncture and Acupressure: These therapies involve stimulating specific points on the body to influence the flow of Qi and restore balance. Acupuncture uses fine needles, while acupressure involves applying pressure to these points.
  6. Dietary Therapy: Chinese healers often prescribe specific diets or dietary guidelines to address health issues. Food is viewed not only as sustenance but also as a way to influence the body’s energy and balance.
  7. Emotional Well-being: Healers recognize the impact of emotions on health. Emotional imbalances are seen as contributing to illness, so healing often involves addressing emotional well-being through practices like meditation, Tai Chi, or Qigong.
  8. Individualized Treatment: TCM practitioners typically take an individualized approach to healing. They consider a person’s unique constitution, lifestyle, and symptoms when designing a treatment plan.
  9. Energy Flow: Chinese healers believe that the smooth flow of Qi through the body is essential for health. Practices like Tai Chi and Qigong enhance and balance the body’s energy.
  10. Self-Healing: Chinese healing practices often empower individuals to take an active role in their own healing. This may involve learning self-acupressure techniques, practicing Qigong or meditation, and making dietary and lifestyle changes.

TCM is a complex and comprehensive system of medicine, and individual Chinese healers may have variations in their approaches and beliefs.

Kai (皆):

This hand sign is believed to enhance the practitioner’s ability to sense danger and perceive the intentions of others. Sun Tzu says in the Art of War:

  1. Know Your Enemy: He says, “If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles.” Understanding your enemy’s intentions, strengths, weaknesses, and tendencies is vital to anticipate their moves and act accordingly.
  2. Deception and Misdirection: Sun Tzu suggests creating confusion and uncertainty in the minds of your adversaries. By doing so, you can make it difficult for them to discern your true intentions while gaining insight into theirs.
  3. Observation and Spying: Sun Tzu places a high value on intelligence gathering. He advises deploying your contacts to gather information about the enemy’s plans, capabilities, and disposition. This information can help in sensing danger and divining their intentions.
  4. Reading the Terrain: Sun Tzu applies the concept of sensing danger to the battlefield itself. He encourages leaders to be acutely aware of the terrain and its potential advantages and disadvantages. Understanding the field helps in predicting enemy movements and planning accordingly.
  5. Adaptability: Sun Tzu highlights the importance of adaptability and flexibility. He advises that strategies and tactics should be adjusted based on the evolving circumstances and the changing intentions of the enemy.

The Art of War emphasizes the need to be vigilant, perceptive, and informed about your adversaries and the battlefield. Sensing danger and divining the intentions of others are critical aspects of successful military strategy and can be applied to various areas of life beyond warfare, including business, politics, and personal relationships.

Jin (陣):

This hand position is thought to enhance the ability to read the thoughts and emotions of others. This point reminds me about Cognitive Biases: jumping to conclusions, all-or-none thinking, mountains-out-of-molehills, emotional thinking, should/ought thinking, personification, catastrophizing, overgeneralization, labeling, and discounting.

Chinese philosophy offers insights into understanding the minds and emotions of others, emphasizing empathy, compassion, and wisdom in interpersonal relationships. Here are some key teachings from Chinese philosophy on this topic:

  1. Confucianism (Confucius, Mencius):
    • Empathy and Benevolence: Confucius taught us to treat others with kindness and to understand their needs and emotions. He often emphasized the importance of “shu” or reciprocity, which involves putting oneself in another person’s shoes to understand their perspective.
    • Moral Exemplar: Confucius taught that individuals should strive to be moral exemplars, setting a positive example for others through their actions and ethical conduct. Exemplars influence others positively.
  2. Daoism (Laozi, Zhuangzi):
    • Non-Interference: Daoism encourages non-interference and allowing others to follow their own paths. Laozi advises against imposing one’s will or judgments on others. By not meddling in others’ affairs, one can better understand their natural inclinations and emotions.
    • Wu Wei (Non-Action): By practicing Wu Wei, individuals can develop an intuitive understanding of others’ emotions and reactions.
  3. Buddhism (Compassion and Mindfulness):
    • Compassion and Empathy: Buddhism places a strong emphasis on compassion as a means of understanding and alleviating the suffering of others.
    • Mindfulness: Through mindfulness, individuals can develop a greater awareness of their own emotions and, by extension, a better understanding of the emotions of others.
  4. Traditional Chinese medicine
    • Five Elements Theory: Practitioners of TCM consider how emotions affect a person’s overall health and well-being, recognizing the interconnectedness of mind and body.

The emphasis is often on developing one’s own inner qualities, such as empathy, compassion, and mindfulness, to better relate to the minds and emotions of others. The goal is to foster harmonious and mutually supportive relationships through understanding, respect, and ethical conduct.

Retsu (列):

This is believed to give the practitioner control over time and space. Chinese philosophy offers various perspectives on achieving that control, often emphasizing harmony, balance, and mindfulness.

  1. Daoism (Laozi, Zhuangzi):
    • Harmony with the Dao: By living in harmony with the Dao, individuals can transcend the limitations of time and space, experiencing a sense of timelessness and interconnectedness.
    • Spontaneity: Zhuangzi’s philosophy emphasizes spontaneity and naturalness. By letting go of rigid plans and expectations, individuals can allow events to unfold naturally, gaining a sense of control over the ebb and flow of time and space.
  2. Confucianism (Confucius, Mencius):
    • Rituals and Order: Confucianism emphasizes the importance of rituals, social order, and ethical behavior. These principles provide a structured framework for individuals to navigate time and space effectively. By adhering to social norms and ethical guidelines, individuals can maintain harmony in their interactions with others and in their surroundings.
  3. Buddhism (Mindfulness and Present Moment):
    • Mindfulness: Zazen is proposed as a means of achieving control over the mind and, by extension, time and space. Mindfulness involves being fully present in the moment, letting go of attachments to the past and future.
    • Detachment from Ego: Buddhist teachings encourage the detachment from the ego and the impermanence of all things. By understanding the transient nature of phenomena, individuals can gain a more profound perspective on time and space, experiencing a sense of liberation from their constraints.
  4. Martial Arts Philosophy (e.g., Tai Chi, Kung Fu):
    • Balance and Flow: Chinese martial arts often incorporate principles of balance and flow. Practices like Tai Chi emphasize fluid movements and the cultivation of Qi to achieve control over one’s body and surroundings.
  5. Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM):
    • Balance of Yin and Yang: Achieving harmony between these opposing forces contributes to a sense of control over one’s physical and mental well-being, allowing individuals to make the most of their time and energy.

Control over time and space is often viewed as a byproduct of achieving inner harmony, balance, and mindfulness. It involves living in alignment with the natural order of the universe and being attuned to the present moment. Rather than exerting force or control in a conventional sense, Chinese philosophy emphasizes an intuitive and harmonious approach to navigating life’s complexities.

Zai (在):

This hand sign is associated with control over the elements of nature. Chinese philosophy emphasizes harmony and cooperation with nature rather than domination. Here are some key ideas from Chinese philosophy on this topic:

  1. Daoism (Laozi, Zhuangzi):
    • Harmony with Nature: Daoism promotes the idea of living in harmony with nature rather than trying to control or conquer it. Laozi’s teachings encourage individuals to observe and follow the natural order (Dao) to achieve balance and avoid disrupting the forces of nature.
    • Wu Wei (Non-Action): With Wu Wei individuals can achieve control over the forces of nature by acting in accordance with the Dao’s flow, without forcing or manipulating natural processes.
  2. Confucianism (Confucius, Mencius):
    • Stewardship: While Confucianism primarily focuses on human relationships and ethics, it encourages individuals to act as responsible stewards of the natural world. This involves recognizing the importance of maintaining harmony between humanity and nature.
  3. Buddhism (Compassion for All Beings):
    • Compassion for Nature: Buddhism, with its emphasis on compassion and non-harming (ahimsa), extends this ethical principle to interactions with the natural world. Practitioners are encouraged to show compassion toward all living beings and the environment.
  4. Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM):
    • Balance with Natural Elements: TCM incorporates the Five Elements theory to understand the interconnectedness of natural elements (wood, fire, earth, metal, water) within the human body and the environment.
  5. Farming and Agriculture:
    • Traditional Chinese agricultural practices, such as crop rotation and using natural fertilizers, reflect a harmonious approach to working with the forces of nature. These practices aim to maintain soil fertility and promote sustainable agriculture.
  6. Tai Chi and Qigong:
    • These practices are designed to cultivate physical and mental balance while fostering a sense of harmony with nature.

The notion of control over the forces of nature is often tempered by the belief that nature should be respected and preserved. The focus is on living in harmony with the natural world, acknowledging the interconnectedness of all things, and recognizing that true control may come from aligning one’s actions with the rhythms and cycles of nature rather than attempting to dominate or control them.

Zen (前):

This position is thought to bring enlightenment, peace, and tranquility. Expect nothing, accept everything. Chinese philosophy offers profound insights into concepts such as nothingness, the void, peace and tranquility, total acceptance, and the absence of expectation. Here are key teachings and perspectives on these concepts:

  1. Zen Buddhism:
    • Zen: Zen Buddhism emphasizes direct experience and the awakening of insight through meditation and mindfulness. It encourages practitioners to go beyond conceptual thinking and experience reality directly. Zen teachings often use paradoxical statements (koans) to challenge conventional thought and encourage intuitive understanding.
    • Nothingness (Emptiness): Zen teachings often point to the concept of “mu” or “emptiness,” emphasizing the inherent emptiness of all things. This concept suggests that ultimate reality transcends conventional distinctions and concepts.
    • The Void: Zen meditation can lead practitioners to an experience of “the void” or a state of profound emptiness and openness. This state is not one of nothingness but of pure potentiality and openness to the present moment.
    • Peace and Tranquility: Inner peace and tranquility is achieved through meditation and mindfulness. By letting go of attachments and desires, individuals can find inner serenity and a sense of inner harmony.
    • Total Acceptance: Zen teachings advocate total acceptance of the present moment without judgment or resistance. This acceptance allows individuals to fully embrace the reality of each moment as it is, leading to a sense of inner peace.
    • Absence of Expectation: Zen encourages the absence of expectations and desires. By letting go of preconceived notions and attachments to specific outcomes, individuals can experience freedom from suffering and a deep sense of contentment.
  2. Daoism (Laozi, Zhuangzi):
    • Wu Wei (Non-Action): Wu Wei implies not forcing events. It is a state of natural spontaneity and effortlessness.
    • Emptiness and Simplicity: Daoist philosophy often advocates simplicity, humility, and emptiness as means to achieve tranquility and balance in life. We let go of excess and embrace simplicity, thus find peace.

By letting go of attachments, desires, and expectations, individuals can experience a profound sense of oneness with the universe and attain a state of inner harmony and contentment. Embracing the present moment and accepting it fully is seen as a path to true peace and enlightenment.

(Q.C., 231009)

What would Jay do?

Jay Leno of The Tonight Show is a popular TV host.

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I sometimes have this habit, binging on Youtube just before going to bed. Although I share Jordan Peterson‘s opinion that it’s a kind of reading, and though I get much enjoyment from the jokes of Jay Leno and others, it makes me lose sleep, not good for the next day. There really is only one way to get rid of this. I don’t have to invent anything, just execute.

I may have put a few “boundaries” to this compulsion, like “I’ll only watch Jay Leno this time”, but the boundaries are just allowing me to have a lot LESS restrictions within those boundaries. It’s a rationalization.

You see, as long as there are “acceptable” boundaries, everything within them is free game. There are rules within, but they do not mark what’s good from what’s bad, only what’s expedient and cost effective. And how many more minutes are left before midnight.

Sometimes, I feel a little depressed about this, maybe edging towards boredom — even a fun Tonight Show loses all its charm after some point.

Mix this with the demands of everyday, especially work. I’m sitting here writing this waiting for a class to begin. I’m sleepy. That’s what I’m saying, the boundary, that boundary which is really doing nothing to improve freedom but just increases the extent of my dependence on drugs — caffeine — and here in front of this class not knowing exactly whether what I’m going to tell them is really worth my while or theirs.

But caffeine, at least, works. There’s little creativity now where I’m standing. But at least I can function. And once I start speaking the caffeine will not be necessary. It’s the down afterwards that’ll be harder to bear.

Fine. With or without Youtube, or caffeine, to me it’s just a type of what I do everyday to push the wall. Madonna at 64 years old still holds concerts. She’s pushing her art to the limits. Same thing. Deliberately creating chaos pushes the wall.

I don’t have to create chaos. But we have to go through it anyway: complications from travel, loneliness, contradictions in life, failures in experiments, feelings of sorrow and depression, feelings that nothing works, and sometimes the only way to improve the tune is to change the guitar itself. But you don’t have the budget. Deal with it.

Like small talk.

So, last night at Shakey’s I was reading about the proper attitude when dealing with small talk. That thing people do as a ritual hoping for the most part that it would end. Yet the latter might just the vegetables that one must go through before getting to the meaty stuff.

This is how it works. I’m impatient because I’m the center of my universe. Everyone is a blip in this awesome life I have. Most of the people I meet are extras in a movie. When I deal with someone wo is more than an extra, I’m looking to be entertained.

But that’s the wrong attitude. I wrote about sonder in my last blog. Consider instead to think that there’s a universe in every person, just as deep and as interesting as your own. To them you are just an extra. Yet, everyone is a vast universe. Who has the time to go through ALL of them? Of course, no one. But that’s not the point.

The point is to connect. How?

Ask What Would Jay Do?

Jay Leno. This guy is an expert in making his guest feel that for the next 10 min he or she is the most interesting person in his life. He listens, he asks questions. He makes them comfortable. Unlike the way many people get into “conversations”, like they’re just waiting what’s going to happen. Usually they are just waiting whether they will be entertained. Not so Jay Leno.

Everyone is worth it! There are some people like Leno who just seem to have a talent for making connections. But there’s really no genius technique to it. Just be GENUINELY INTERESTED. Show with every word and gesture and smile that he or she IS the center of his or her universe. Then neither you nor they will be a blip in each other’s life.

Will they ever be friends? We don’t know. Probably not. But they cannot be friends when our attitude is that we want to be entertained. Entertainment may be part of the interaction but it is not its essence, nor is it really as important as showing interest. Or faking it. Which is better than no interest.

Other behaviors like body language, the way we listen, the questions we ask. But the real thing is the attitude, that I’m curious, like supremely curious.

I probably lost some of these skill when I became BUSY. Fortunately, there’s Jay Leno.

(Calamba, 231007)